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Thanks Christine, I now have a large brandy.

Must be lovely to have your grandchildren close, but I can see real challenges too. My son and daughter in law lived with us recently for 18 months, nice having them around but involved lots of compromise on both sides too.

its a long complicated story, involving people I thought were friends who just don't get it. Something I would have coped with with no problem at all a couple of years ago, but has me in floods of tears tonight.

I am starting to think I need to move house, but am a bit trapped here as the bedroom in the cellar conversion flooded this Christmas and the builder has just had a heart attack.....the same week he was due here to try and figure out what caused it. Although I could buy somewhere new then worry about either selling or letting this once sorted out........if I can get it sorted out. You can see how muddled my thinking is.

meet ups are great. I have been to two Mac ones, and three way up ones Now. 

Hi Lynda

This is the best place on earth to come & cosy down when you're feeling down,there's a constant supply of yummy eats & there's always somebody to hold your hand,give you a hug & say message me if you want to talk

I was in a place that made me sad a few weeks ago & everybody here was lovely,lots of hugs & i'm now smiling again

I've not been to any macmillan meet up but i have had coffee with 1 lady i speak to & am planning to meet 2 more when i'm next on holiday,not sure there's actually anybody from my area on here to be honest

Oh you are in a muddle about the house,i don't know what i'd do i'm sure,i'm ok with little decisions but something major like that would send me running for the hills till someone else had made the decision for me but once they've got it sorted i'm very good at bossing people about to get the job done

xx

Thanks.

there isn't anyone from the macmillan groups near me in the Lakes (that I know of), but I went to meets in London and Edinburgh. There is much to my surprise an active way up group here which was wonderful to find.

Making decisions on your own is one of the hardest things about this new life. Even deciding what to have for dinner is a nightmare, never mind whether to move house.

so glad I have you all to come running to.

I'm going to show my ignorance here & ask what a way up group is

The people on this community have been brilliant & if i'm honest have been nicer & more sympathetic & helpful than some of my so called "real" friends,i'm still trying to work out which freaked them out the most "i have breast cancer" or "i have depression & am on tablets & need help" funny how something like that has the power to send folks scurrying for the hills

I really should be heading for bed,early start tomorrow,christening (poor child's getting me as a godmother) & it's in Matlock (i do hope Jakki put in an order for good weather) but i need to make sure you're ok befor i leave you alone with the chocolate

xx 

Carol, hmmm did put the order in for good weather but it seems to be coming a day late. Will give you a massive wave at 9:15 though. Xx

Lakesover, sending hugs and leaving you a hot chocolate to pop in the microwave, there's a squishy beanbag to curl up on too. Hope the Way Up group is helpful to you. Xxxxxx

Sorry, way up is a group for widows and widowers over the age of 50. They have a web site and forum and arrange meetings......not a dating site I have to add. It's a great way of getting to meet people in my area who are in the same position as me for coffee, lunch, theatre etc. I'm also booked to go on holiday to Budapest with them in November.

i don't know if it is the Cancer or depression. I'm lucky with most of my friends who were not freaked by the Cancer. In fact most have also coped with Jon dying too and been there for me, although they don't get it in the same way as people here.

im okish now, tears have stopped and I'm going to take myself off to bed.

enjoy tomorrow, cuddle that baby, and thanks for being here tonight.

Thanks Jakki,no matter what the weather i'm sure a big hug from the girls will make me feel 

xx

Pleased you're feeling bit better now Lynda,i shall take myself off to bed too,not sure i'll get a cuddle as the baby is almost 3 now & the only chance of a cuddle is when she's almost asleep as she's one of those busy kids that are on the move all night

Hope everybody sleeps well & wakes refreshed & ready to face the day

Love & hugs

xx

Carol, have a wonderful time after a good nights' sleep.....

Lynda, sending you big hugs, feeling down and lost is a tough thing to cope with. I know the feeling of being alone in a huge city in amongst loads of people, but only marginally so, nothing like yours and Christine's gaping emptiness, so it must be awful. More big hugs 

Jakki, hope tomorrow is a 'getting better' day so you see Carol's wave as she goes by! 

Waiting to hear that my baby is safely in Rio de Janeiro, flight lands around midnight our time.....it's been a long, long day, needed to be getting up by 6am to chivvy them to get going! 

Hugs again.

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Good evening all

Well what a start to the day,hope you didn't get wet waiving Jakki,i got flipping soaked,twice

Christening was lovely & surprisingly our "baby" behaved perfectly at the font,unfortunatly we had to leave about 2.30 as the after church guests were arriving & there were too many people in one room for me,we popped in to Matlock for a bit of peace & quiet & had a cuppa & scone in the cafe in the park & that's when we got wet again as it flipping rained as we were leaving

There's fizz & schloer & some christening cake on the side,please help yourselves

xx