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Hi Misterp and welcome to our site. This is our chat area where we have a virtual room with everything there for your comfort. It is used by anyone that wants a chat and a catch up, virtual glass of wine or chocolate cake and we try to keep it lighthearted. We are very happy to have you with us. Everyone is welcome.

We we do have other men on the Macmillan site who share their feelings with us you may like to join us on the bereaved spouses site here Bereaved spouses and partners - Discussion Forum  where you can share anything you wish and it will be well understood by all the members.

I would endorse Lakesklover in urging you to join Wayup as this is an excellent site for chatting to others and joining in meet ups and events. It is true there are more ladies on the site but I can assure you there are men as well! I am going to a lunch event in Birmingham on Monday and there are two men joining us there. It is possible to chat and share your experiences on their site as well.

hope we hear more from you soon. 

Very best wishes xx

Hi misterp welcome

I am a breast cancer patient and I see the anguish my husband feels every step of the way.The carers need as much support as we the patients and I think macmillan understand this full well.  

Come and join in the chat with folks who understand the ups and downs

thanks for you reply ... my thoughts are with you and your husband. it's so easy for me to say this ,

but my wife was so brave throughout her 12 month ordeal , never complaining.

We knew she was terminal and sorted all her final details herself right down to Cilla's " You're My World " being played in the church.

Your husband will give you strength and support that's for sure ... you don't say where your condition is going..

I have found that I am far stronger than I ever thought I would be ..

don't go out too much and not in the least interested in any relation at this time ... but I would

like to meet new people to talk to about anything other than doom and gloom.

I see my male friends at skittles once a week which is good as they don't pussyfoot around me and

let me be myself for a few hours.

what is very hard is when they are with their wives , her close friends at our club and Marilyn's

seat is empty ... in the exact order they all sat.

I don't stay long on those nights.

Stay strong both of you and hold onto each other and tell each other all the time how much

you love each other.

don't know if this will mean anything , but we found it easier to install as much normality as we were

able.. we knew what was happening , but we had a ball in her last moths before she became too ill.

I am sure you too would to have normality and not have people over fussing ... just remember,

these people love and care for you.

a bit like cream cakes .... very nice but not too many at a time.

no need to reply to this .. just wanted to say thanks for responding and pass on some thoughts.

take care.

Peter.

Hello all & welcome Peter

Sorry about the sand,just in from a day on the beach with the great niece & nephews & the retched stuff gets everywhere,all we could hear today was "Uncle Vince,come & play ..........." & off he went,we got quite worn out watching him playing while we sat in the sun,i've put sticks of rock & bags of sweets on the side & there's ice cream in the freezer but i'd leave that a while as it had started to melt by the time we got home

Hope all have had a good weekend & are ok,pleased to see you've relaxed a bit this weekend Lynda & your night out sounds just up my street,i love singing & dancing but don't often manage to get Vince to join me as he's not much of a dancer,we seem to have a bit of a problem with me sending you photos of the kittens,i send them & it seems you don't get them as 2 days later i get a txt that says message not delivered :-(

Did the lodgers enjoy legoland Christine,we thought about taking the step when he was younger but mummy got in first as we took too long thinking about it,shame really as i'd love to go there

How are you feeling Gillian,hope you're doing ok

I'm off for a bath as i fear that's the only way i'll get rid of this pesky sand

Love & hugs to all

xx

You made me laugh, I remeber as a kid having baths after being on the beach and getting gritty in the bottom of the bath. 

Hahaha, Gillian, me too, I remember needing to have a bath to get rid of the sand from the beach! 

Hope you are all well, and welcome Peter. 

Been busy ( when am I not?) have daughter here and we've been hunting through the photo cupboard for a project she has lined up! She is still jet lagged and has a bit of a cold with a cough too, so a bit of a worry as she still isn't able to fight off infections, although she's been home almost a week she's been working in London so hasn't had a chance to just chill and do nothing. Hope she can do that for a few days, but she has rehearsals and a Prom concert next Saturday too, this time with BBC concert orchestra. 

Hugs to you all xxx

Hi everyone

Sounds like a lovely day Carol. I remember going to the beach as a kid. I was scared of going down to the edge of the sea because of the little squiggly piles of sand. I thought they were worms and would freak out if I stood on them. And don't get me started on seaweed. My mum and dad must have had the patience of saints.

I've done nothing today. Fell asleep in the bath and hubby has just told me I've been snoring for the last hour on the sofa. I think I have sleeping sickness. Every time I sit down, off I go again. I'm supposed to be going back to work soon. Lord knows how I'm going to manage that.

I'm putting it down to Herceptin. If this is me after number 7, I'm going to be asleep about 23 out of 24 hours by the end.

Luv x

That may explain why I was so tired last week and not so bad this. I had first herceptin last week but this week just chemotherapy. 

Sorry....been AWOL with a paintbrush all day. Main bedroom nearly finished, just needs another coat of gloss. Smallest bedroom started. Appointment made for Hammonds to come and quote for fitted wardrobes in the main bedroom.

son and daughter in law came round for BBQ and helped put together the dining room furniture, and the garden furniture.

Wow Lynda you don't let the grass grow under your feet!!!

Housewarming party ???

Carol glad you had a good day at,the beach.

Weeble and Gillian good luck with the treatments, take plenty of rest.

Moomy I hope daughter is ok. I am sure you will soon sort her out.

Goodnight everyone. It has been a pleasant weekend. Kids enjoyed Legoland but said it was packed and very hot. Xx