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Hi everyone, yet another busy day! A funeral ( no, not family or close, a colleagues wife that we had never met) then afternoon tea with my Lymphoma group. 

Jakki, your photos are lovely, enjoy your freedom over there! 

Carol, it will be so hard to let your brood go! I am quite glad you might be keeping one though, is Polly off to her vet appointment soon? 

Lynda, I am sure you want the new place perfect but honestly, you can take your time, it isn't a race......take care, lovey! 

Christine, when is Paris? 

Gillian, hope the chemo was ok....

jasmin, hope Mich is still making progress? 

Everyone else who looks in, I'm so glad to see this place busy and loved....

hugs xxx

Afternoon, inside for a while, it's hot, hot, hot. Just put some feta, olive and tomato salad in the fridge, help yourselves. The cheese here is amazing, will get a Corsican sheep cheese wheel for you tomorrow it's lush. 

Lynda you sound like a busy lady, hope you were able to enjoy your chip supper and weren't too tired?

love to all xxx

Hello

Pleased you're having a good time Jakki,bet you''re getting a lovely tan,i just go like a lobster then peel

Well the little baby has a a name now,she will be called Willow

Am now off out with my friend to see Magic Mike

Hope all have a good evening

Love & hugs

xx

Sounds like you are enjoying your holiday Jakk

Enjoy your evenin. Sister

I hope everyone else is enjoying their evening. I just had to abandon. My dialysis treatment with a needle problem. Will have to do it again tomorrow. Most annoying as it is torecast to be nice tomorrow.   

Hello all

Hope you got your dialysis sorted & managed to get out in the sun Gillian,it's been a glorious day here,hope it stays like this as we have a bbq to go to tonight,i'd rather not go,they'll be talking shooting all night & i have no interest in that at all

Had a brilliant time last night,the film was hilarious,i was crying laughing & would recommend

Hope all have a good evening

Love & hugs

xx 

Hope everyone has had a good day in the sun.

i had a great evening last night, party cruise on a canal boat with live music and fish and chips. We were dancing in the aisle to music from the 50's, 60's, and 70's. I stayed at a friends house last night to avoid driving through the little lanes in the dark.

by the time I got home this morning I was still tired and it was already late morning, so taking Christine's words to heart (it isn't a race) I decided not to drive over and do any more painting. Instead I went out for lunch, then did some food shopping.

painting resumes tomorrow.

That sounds like a really good night Lynda, so glad you enjoyed it and had a quiet day today. The weather was lovely. I went to visit a friend, had my hair trimmed then did the roots myself ( really pleased with myself saved quiet a lot of money as well) then had a quiet afternoon in the garden. Lodgers went to Legoland expecting them to land back soon!!!

That sounds like a nice day. Good to have some quiet time for you sometimes. 

I bet the lodgers will be hot, tired and irritable.....and that's just the adults! I used to love taking my boys to legoland, especially the Father Christmas ones in December when it would all be lit up as dusk fell.

i have spent the last two hours drawing a plan for my new bathroom, and looking online at where I can get stuff to fit. I think I have it sorted now, and the plumber is coming at the end of the week to quote. 

Hello .. not sure where to begin really .. been trying to find a site where widows / widowers express

themselves, but it seem men think it weak to do so , as I don't see many.

I lost my wife to lung cancer on Feb 1st this year ... it was our 38th wedding anniversary Thursday

just gone,,, Nothing really eases the pain and I can never forget her.

I try to keep busy and get on with my life ... I spent many weeks with Marilyn throughout her ilness

in and out of hospitals , and it is her courage that make me stop feeling sorry for myself.

don't get me wrong , I do have many tearful moments behind doors , but I put my brave face on outside ... I have incredible friends who rally round , but the phone calls get less and so forth.

I am ok with this , as they have their own lives to live and I know they would be with me in a shot

if I needed them to ... I don't burden them.

For me, the hardest part of losing the love of my life , was the final hours. We knew it was

coming , but nothing really prepares you.. it was just me and her together.

My grown up sons had already kissed her goodbye , I think she would have known this.

I went back to full time work quite quickly after the funeral as I knew that if I didn't make that

move , I would dig myself into a pit of sorrow , and she would be so disappointed with me.

So come on you men, if you reading this , don't hide behind the macho nonsense, share your thoughts and feelings , you are a human being after all and both men and women on this site

have been through the same,

Thanks for letting me use your thread as an opening and good luck with the kitchen ...

ironically I have just put the finishing touches to worktops ,tiles and fancy mixer taps

she wanted done , in our kitchen ... I am sure she is keeping an eye on it.

Hi and welcome to 24/7. 

I understand how you feel, my husband died of lung cancer in December..

As as well as sharing here where we tend to talk about all sorts of things mostly unrelated to Cancer I suggest you join the bereaved spouses and partners group.

there are men who post there as well as women.

can I also suggest you look at way up. It is on online support group for people widowed over the age of 50, and they arrange meet ups as well. There are both men and women posting there, although still about 90% women im afraid.

http://www.way-up.co.uk