Hello everyone,
the title says it all, this is a thread for everyone at any and all hours of day and night, to post, help, laugh, cry and anything in between. There will be no nasty posts, everyone who joins in will be gentle, considerate and kind to everyone else. Hugs to all......xxx
Evening all.
well that's the keys collected. A quick visit to the house just to check everything was ok and all locked up safely.
sofas for lounge (cream and duck egg blue stripe), comfy chairs for dining room(bright multi coloured stripes), table, dresser, nest of tables (oak tops with cream painted legs), beds, garden table and chairs all ordered with various delivery dates.
wardrobes selected but not ordered yet......I needed to measure up.
Painting starts Tuesday with the dining room first as that will be the first furniture to arrive Next Friday. Son off work Tuesday so he will be there to help!
Frustrating I am at a meet up tomorrow, and working Sunday and Monday so I can't start earlier.
Hope pe all had a good day, I am shattered now so off to bed.
Wow Lynda
You don't mess about once you get started do you. It all sounds lovely and you sound very happy and positive.
Very best of luck in your new home.xxxxxxx
I might sound it. But went to bed and the tears started.......so sad Jon will never see the house. I had a really bad night, even when I did sleep I had bad dreams.
Worried about getting it all done again. I discovered yesterday that the electricity is on a pre payment meter so I have to find out how to get that changed.
I think it suddenly all feels like such a big mountain to climb.
Supposed to to be meeting some way up people for coffee later. At the moment I really don't want to go. But I suppose I will just have to pull myself together and get on with it.
at least the sun is shining today.
Lynda,
I am sure there will be many times you feel like this. It is such a huge thing to do on your own and some of it will be hard, especially the things which Jon would have taken charge of.
You come across as a strong and positive lady but never beat yourself up about low times lovely.
I am sure Jon would be really proud of your strength in this big undertaking and, as Christine says, you take him with you in your heart and memory.
I know I can not understand what a difficult path you are on but just wanted to send you a massive hug and lots of love.
Jakki xxxxx
Thankyou both for your support. I couldn't get through this without the help of you lovely people.
one small thing done before I go out, I have called the electricity company changed the account into my name, and arranged for them to come and change the meter.
There you are you see half way up the mountain. Have a lovely day xx
Lovely Lynda,
i know it must be tough (have never walked in your shoes so cannot know for real) but you will cope! Jon will be with you all the time in your heart and mind, and in some ways you will be still thinking, 'what would Jon say/do/suggest?' But you are you, and will find YOUR own way of coping.
As Christine has just said, you've climbed partway up that mountain on your own! Clever you!
Your furniture sounds lovely, and will be your innate taste coming out, tinged with the time you spent with Jon of course, our tastes change all the time, and yours now is a product of all of your life, experiences, loves, practical thoughts and all.
Sending you mahoosive hugs xxx
Moomy
Thank you. Yes, it is tough, but I'm not the first to have to do it, and won't be the last.
the salesman's face was a picture when I told him the two different materials I wanted......then I just had to take pity on him and tell him they were for different rooms! I think he had a vision of these two definitely clashing materials together in one room.
Now I am trying to plan colour schemes for all of the rooms. You are right it will be a mixture of things Jon would like, and things he would not.....like the girly cat cushions.
Dining room will be tasteful cream......with those multi stipe chairs for fun, and I'm going to pick out the cerise colour stripe and find a rug for the front of the chairs in that colour. Definitely my style and not Jon's.
i did go to my meet as well, stayed a couple of hours, nice to have a break from house stuff. I managed to resist buying any bits and pieces in the garden centre. Then I did a couple of hours work in preparation for my meeting Monday.
hope everyone else has managed a good Saturday and that little mews have had their daily cuddles.
Hi Lynda, sorry you had a few tears, not unexpected as you are doing so much and making all these choices and decisions on your own. You now can have your choice in everything and maybe have a little smile to yourself when you know Jon would not have liked your choice. I know Mick would say you always get what you want even if I don't like it. I expect Jon was the same most of the time. Your choices sound like something out of a home magazine and sound lovely.
Mick is home now, bit depressed today as can't do very much, but he's home where he wants to be.
Take care Lynda, you are doing really well.
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