THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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Hi Kelsey,
I can't tell you how important it is to get this sorted. We did all ours, but the paper work is still so complicated even with all this in place.
It is such a hard discussion to have, as it looks like you are just giving up, but things have to be talked about, and there will be tears.
My Mum was very particular that I would be getting all her jewelery. My Dad values my sister in law, and idolises their 7 year old daughter, and so far he has just left it all in the envelope that the hospice returned to him.
The items include my Grans wedding ring, and my other grans bangle (mine was stolen in the burglary), I hope that he doesn't just share them out one day while I am not with them, but I can see that happening. If it does I will just have to cause a huge argument to get it all back.
I know it just sounds so mercenary but it's not about the financial value, I was the most unsentimental person ever, now I can't even bear to dead head the flowers that Mum planted in my garden in case I kill them off.
It's a huge complicated emotional thing to discuss, and I'm sending you all my courage to help you through it.
Thanks Mel. It will be very difficult and my brother has said he can't talk to my dad about it so again it will probably be me. I will try to sort out all the facts first before having to speak to my dad though I don't anticipate him being very helpful. He doesn't do paperwork and will think that I have given up on him. I'm trying to enlist help elsewhere though from someone he trusts so I might not have to do it all on my own. To be honest I hadn't considered the personal possessions - just the stuff that will help my mom. I would much rather his possessions went where he wanted to them to go though because I feel that gives them more meaning than if they're simply divided up.
Gosh Mel that must be something that plays on your mind. It's not only about you and your needs but about what your mom wanted to happen isn't it?
Well I shall keep you all posted and will pop on tomorrow to update you though it's not likely to be until the end of the day.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your wonderful Uncle.
I know you will be of great comfort to all the family, and I also know that despite all your bravery, courage and strength, the determination to not let Cancer win can waiver.
I know that your Uncle's passing was not related to cancer, but sometimes what we have all been through makes grief such an enemy that we forget that for it to hurt this much, we must have loved so much.
I replied here rather than on your topic on grief, because that topic is a special place for hope, and you have shown such courage there and I do not want that courage to be shadowed by my message of sympathy to you and your family.
You are a true soldier and a true hero, titles only given to those that have faced the battle. I am very proud of you my friend.
God bless you and your wonderful family, in whatever world they reside.
Im not as thoughtful as our mushroom and did post on your thread without thinking hun sorry - have deleted message now but copied it over her
Hey bern
I am real sorry to hear about your uncle hun - tis my turn to top and tail at yours now so budge over and no snoaring please.
Hun we are all hear for you as you ahve been for us so much. You give a shout if you need us and you will have a que waiting to give u hugs, listen and keep you standing tall. I know this is doubly hard for you with your own grief but also being there for you ma as i know you will be wanting to do - so use us as your realise valve - we will be here always.
Big hugs to you my friend
Much Love
Helen - the pink one
xx
Kelsey will be thinking of you tomorrow - big hugs.
Hee Hee mushroom you funny. Having a blonde day today me thinks - although me didnt think then - but then i blessed with friends that can think and point me in right direction.
Hey if yoru word is gospel can you please say the words about me winning the lottery big time - i promise to share with all on here - hee hee ill give them a tenner each - opps did i say that out loud!!!!
Hey thats a deal as that no cost nothing for that - hun u is just perfect - now get your head out of the bucket i mean it.
The mushroom needs to also spoken about mars bars being free forever for all mac users.
OOOOOO And the scrumpy jack factory relocating to the pink ones garden and the rent would be as much as i could drink - mmmmm at moment that is bloody cheep.
