International Day of Friendship

Hello Wayne Wayne - Online Community Team 

So here you go,

For the last 48 years I have gone out for a beer midweek on a Wednesday evening. There’s now a group of 5/6 left and it’s not everyone who’s out every week - and the younger element in our local call it “coffin dodger’s corner” . We are good with that.

When I got my diagnosis of cancer - we are an open group - instead of horror everyone was there for me moral support, help with jobs around the house you name it that’s what friends are for!!

For my personal cancer journey I am on the prostate group. I have been a member for 4 years. The number of friends I have on the group are countless. I have many I speak to on and off the Community and indeed I am on holiday in Sussex this week - last night my wife and I were treated to dinner in a local pub by another Community member and his wife. Now they are what being friends are all about, not just the meal and beer - the conversation that flowed for 4 hours.

We are both incurable-but TRUE friendship is there for all to see.

I have had my “moments” where things haven’t been too good - don’t we all - but when you put up a post on the group saying you have an “issue” there have always been my friends and others there for my support.

You know your friends and you have a bond with them - I don’t know where I would be without them. 

Kind regards-Brian.

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Hi Brian,  I know who you mean and he has been a great comfort to me and has many words of wisdom.  This forum has been a great support to me so I am grateful to everyone on here.  Cancer can be so lonely but being on here, I know I am not alone.  Enough rambling.  All of my friends have been great.  One of my friends checks up on me every week without fail.  She gave her time to take me to chemo when she could which I really appreciate.

Lee x

Hi Brian. I'm a carer, so I don't know whether I can post on this group?

 Hello Ukiboy 

Yes you are more than welcome to post in this group.

Best wishes-Brian.

I don't know and never have known how to join in with this community. Maybe it's because I'm old; maybe Because I'm heartbroken. 

Hiya Brian I would love to get connected with others it's my mum that has been diagnosed with bone cancer and there is no cure as wha thru told us and she is on tablets at the moment and it's been hard not being able to go and meet people it's just me and mum daughter and it be good to meet people here and any advice would be amazing I'm Louise 43 and my daughter is 9 my mum is in her 70s and it's just been hard not knowing where to look to get advice and help 

Hi Sophiesaf5329.  You have joined this community.  I am so sorry to hear that you are heartbroken, is there anything any of us on here can do for you?  I am happy to chat any time.  Maybe if you would like to talk to someone you could phone the helpline on here 0808 808 00 00.  I have incurable cancer and have used the helpline and it was a relief to talk to someone and they pointed me in the right direction for some counselling.

Lee x

Hello Louise (Louise B43 ) 

A very warm welcome to the online Community, although I am so sorry to find you joining us. The Community is divided up into cancer specific groups and to "meet" others with the same diagnosis as mum just click on this link:

 Bone cancer forum 

Once you click on the link and the page opens up, click on "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined the group you can introduce yourself in the "New Here - Say Hello" section. I am sure you will get plenty of replies.

If you are mum's carer there's another group for you - link here.

 Carers only forum 

We do have a general chat group and although it's called " Awake and Up All Night" it's busy during the day too.

 Awake and up all night 

I don't know how much your daughter knows but this information may help:

Talking-to-children-and-teenagers.

It's also a good idea to let school know the circumstances too.

There is our Support Line for you too on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week).

I hope the above helps. If you do need any help in navigating the Community please do get back to me.

Best wishes - Brian.

Yes, I find it impossible to navigate too. Probably for the same reasons as you. 

Hello Sophiesaf5329 

I see you are a member of the carers only group - when you come onto the Community the link to that group will be on your home page.

If you let me know a little about yourself - if you have cancer or a partner or loved one has - what type it is - and I can help to guide you to where you need to be. If it's something else let me know and I will see if I can help.

I am almost 71 and I know what you mean about all this "modern technology".

Kind regards - Brian.