I'm brand new here. I'm reaching out because I'm feeling trauma. My husband is terminally ill with cancer/secondary cancer including a small brain tumour. After second chemo his personality has completely changed. He wants no help from me whatsoever (but I can assure you he needs it) and is irritable. I do get it. I get the frustration, pain,depression, all of it...But it's so wrong. We have had many happy years together and this just feels awful. When we found out he had cancer I expected a lot of heartache but not this rejection. I keep wondering if the brain cancer could be a part of it....
Hell Heartfelt123
A very warm welcome to the online Community, however I am so sorry to find you joining us. The Community is divided up into many smaller groups and to receive help and support in your circumstances I would suggest you join these groups:
Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum and
Just click on the links I have provided and once the page opens up, click on "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined each group, why not introduce yourself in the "New Here - Say Hello" section. You can even copy and paste the post above. I am sure you will find plenty of support there from others on the same they similar journey.
Don't forget our Support Line is there for you - it's a free call on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week).
On this group there's also an active thread here:
You can join in the conversations any time of day or night - the chat can be about cancer - but life in general - it's been about carpets, blue badges and cats and dogs in the last day or two.
I hope this helps - if you do need any help in navigating the Community please do get back to me.
I wish you well in supporting your husband.
Best wishes - Brian.
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
Strength, Courage, Faith, Hope, Defiance, VICTORY.
I am a Macmillan volunteer.
