My dad has throat cancer, he is 80. He is the full time carer of my mum with Alzheimer’s. He does everything for her. He is undergoing radiotherapy for his cancer and is really starting to feel the effects of it, it’s slowing him down but he wants to keep operating at the same capacity and speed. He is having dizzy spells and feeling unwell and having panics but doesn’t identify that this is because he’s trying to do ttoo much. How do I support with this- he doesn’t speak about anything and share how he feels? I attend his appointments and my sister cooks meals etc. but I want to keep his spirit up because my mum is unable to help support him or listen to his worries or concerns.
Hi Helndeer and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I was the one with cancer, I know how challenging a cancer diagnosis can be for the whole family.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you also join and post in the family and friends group as you'll then connect directly with others who are supporting a family member through a cancer diagnosis.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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