Living alone with cancer

Thanks MI let’s, yes you are right I’ve tried to get out a bit more as the isolation was almost the hardest but

Hi Gail thanks for you message and I’m sorry you’re facing the same issues with friends but it’s good to know it’s not just me. As the chemo rounds have gone on I guess I slowly feel a little bit braver. Still not using public transport but I’ve realised the emotional part of this journey is just as important so to try and make my friends understand it’s not me being neurotic I have forced them to read MacMillan advice in risk of infection and that seemed to make them accept my situation.

i wish you all the love and success for your journey. 

nataie 

It's just me and I find it peaceful as many well intended people actually create more stress, noise, movement and chaos. I just eat right, exercise and stay busy. I'm a loner and going through process and treatment alone.

Hi everyone, 

Just found out yesterday that I have breast cancer. Very emotional, still trying to process. I live alone but have family closed by. My parents came with me to the hospital yesterday. My dad was diagnosed with cancer last year.. looking for some advice from anyone who may be able to give me any ideas on how to distract myself. Thanks 

I understand you  100% .

  Just joined the forum .x

It is so strange how being alone but then preferring to be at this time .

I have had some absolutely pathetic messages  from people and people saying call in one day but ring first to see if convenient ...22 miles round trip ???

      You feel despair !!!

Luckily I have a best friend since I was 11 (now 66) and her and her husband have been marvelous although I was to her after all her miscarriages etc etc 

    But you dont want to overdo as they have their lives .

    But boy I understand what you mean about chaos I was so fustrated the other day I thought I cant take any more of this  and peace and quiet rather than is so much better .

Hello Joyful 

Welcome to the Macmillan Online Community, although I am so sorry to find you joining us. I am Brian one of the Community Champions here.

The Community is divided up into cancer specific groups as well as this general chat group - if you let me know the type of cancer you have I can direct you to that group where you can "meet" others on the same or similar journey.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hello there

    Ovarian advanced diagnosed 2 weeks ago .

Hello Joyful 

Thank you for your reply. I am sorry to hear that, so here's a link to take you to our ovarian group:

Ovarian cancer forum 

Once you click on the link I have provided and the page opens up, just click on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined the group you can introduce yourself in the "New Here - Say Hello" section.

If you click on a Community members name or avatar you will find some of us have a record of our personal journey there - it helps others understand just where we are.

If you need any help in navigating the Community, please feel free to get back to me.

I wish you well with your personal journey.

Best wishes - Brian.

I'm really bad at this stuff. I left a message on this some time ago. I was coping with living alone. Loneliness hit at times,but me and my 2 cats got by. Not many friends,i don't drive,no social life. Bowel cancer hit. Now an existing problem (a breathing issue) got worse,so catching busses became an issue. I called on an old friend for assistance,that didn't work out to well. Another friend who drives stepped up. Became very helpful. I was and still extremely lonely. Those moments when you've got something on your mind,Need a cuddle,need a shoulder to cry on,need an opinion. If I don't get kicked off for moaning,I'll add some more when I don't feel so stressed and scared.