Awake and up all night

Lawks, poor Scoots. Stressy and MiL have lots in common by the sounds of things.

Give me a bit and I'll reply to your other post as they keep crossing with the delay.

Be back soon...

Well, OH knows full well his mother is a massive problem but the blood thicker than water baloney sticks in my craw - he knows that too as I'm very vocal about it. Also to her when I've had the misfortune to encounter her.

The biggest issue is OH's demeanor after decades of drinking the Kool Aid from mother's poisoned chalice. She's got her apron strings firmly wrapped round him and his dozy older bro, whom mother has put in an exalted position slightly lower than herself. 

She refers to them as no. 1 son and no. 2 son. Is this starting to make sense now, how OH has been made to feel second best since day 1 and always inferior to big bro? She even admitted to me she only had OH to supply big bro with a playmate. I was beyond disgusted and told her so.

Part 2 to follow...

Boo hiss! No I am taking this seriously... but if there is popcorn  I won't say no ahem

Cheers

So, besides pretty much leading the life of an aging single woman, having to do everything housewise, all the financial stuff etc etc, I also have to do everything medically and personally for OH with the added issue of his depression. I fully understand what he's been through, and still going through, but this is no picnic for me and I don't need an interfering, surplus to requirements old bat constantly gaslighting her no 2 son on top of it. I've told OH he's going to have to make a decision where his loyalties lie and soon, as I'm not the type of person who'll put up with playing wee slavey for ever.

It sounds like I'm putting him on the spot but something's got to give for my own sanity. There's more but I think that's enough for now. I do enjoy getting it off my chest to someone who'll listen by the way xxx

  enjoy xxx

Fuuuuuu! 

How come she doesn't see the strong person you are or that her 'thing' doesn't work on you?

Or is it that she has been this way and only this way for so long she hasn't any other flavour?

Cheers 

Munch munch  munch. You know there's a thing with popcorn that means you will keep eating however much is available?

Cheers

The hamsters just jumped me, hence the delay.

Well, she does see what I'm like and told no 1 son she's frightened by me. Good, but that doesn't help OH really. She's a narcissist and encountering someone who knows that, me, has unnerved her.

I've told all of them, to their faces, she's not allowed here unless I'm out, which is rare, so she's tightened her stranglehold on OH and has ramped up the gaslighting.

She's created a horrible situation for OH and there's only one way out of it for him, but I honestly aren't wanting that even though it's inevitable. A quandary of proportions. xxx

Have some more  xxx

Jumping in again just to say I find the favourite child thing hard. My mother only had two of us around but was vehemently adamant that she had no favourites, loved both the same.

I suppose in other families it's pointless paying lip service to the notion if the lived experience says otherwise. I know where there are several siblings one can be referred to as the golden child. Maybe the youngest ... or in a pal's case the oldest who also happened to be a female too but pretty and bright and went to uni and taught and became the youngest headteacher and went to New Zealand I think and got two reading books into their national school scheme bla bla while pal, two brothers and quite a few years later, struggled to pass exams etc.

She actually eventually prospered and is a lecturer in education with several high level qualifications but had a rough route 

Cheers