Awake and up all night

Not quite Yeti but some had fur  I was mostly in Pavers. Really good bargains if you just want to hang on to them till the weather turns, not so good for shuffling to the shops in the sun.

Although I am sure aliens   walk among us as whilst I want to unzip my skin there are folk in deep-sea diver boots, long coats, many layers and chains not twitching an eyebrow!

Cheers 

I'm still here Shims.

Thanks so much for your expansive reply hon, and you've made things much clearer.

I'll see if OH gets offered a 6 week stint first and go with that. If there's little to no improvement I'll see what the next steps are. I know him better than anyone else so I'll be the best judge.

We've had tears before bedtime tonight but he responds well to my own brand of 'talking' ie. no rocking in corners or ripping down the curtains.

There's also a local organisation - Andy's Man Club - specifically aimed at depressed men and with suicidal thoughts. Now I know for sure that's not on OH's mind and I've asked him anyway. If I thought that I'd never leave him alone to go shopping, knowing there's a bucket load of meds in the house.

I'll give it even more thought than I already do after your info, my lovely xxx

I am just getting over the shock of looking up Yeti boots... there is a pair with 30% discount... makes them ONLY £715 

Before his latest adventure, what sort of stuff did hubs get up to?

I was thinking about this the other day ... about having more people involved in his day ... appropriately of course, not like putting him in kennels 

Cheers 

I know you know this but I also understand that hubs and you are grieving for how things were, and managing that grief never mind processing it whilst getting to grips with how things are and doing the doing, must be nigh on impossible.

Cheers

We're definitely grieving as we've lost the lot. I also think he's got hypothyroidism, common in head and neck patients, and after nagging for over a year I got my way and OH got the blood test. Now we wait but if he has got it, the meds would help sort his low moods, dry skin, aching joints etc, a plethora of symptoms he's got. And if his bloods are clear, we move on to the next step. He knows I never give up so he's prepared to be pulled along for the ride.

Are Yeti boots THAT much?!!!

They were less than 50 quid when I was contemplating a pair. Mind that was circa 1982 - things have gone up a bit since then, inflation blah xxx

Sonia, I'm relieved to see you were able to pop back here for a few posts. I hope you can soon have access to useful counselling sessions. It is often the case that just talking to someone who is prepared to listen, who has empathy and can be trusted is a first gentle step in helping you to feel more secure in your thoughts. I was sceptical about my medical phobia being amenable to any sort of reduction as it was so deep rooted and seemed to be self reinforcing. A private therapist (ex-NHS nurse) helped a lot with counselling, then a lovely CBT lady further steered me in the right direction. It was not a rapid change, more of a gradual process which explored reasons then subtly assisted me to build steadily more reliable thought patterns which were realistic and workable. There was no attempt to change my personality or remove normal human apprehension. It felt as though they were helping me to fix myself. We are all different of course. You may fall madly in love with a handsome counsellor and emigrate to Hawaii with him, spending your time relaxing under a palm tree weaving a new grass skirt. So make sure your counsellor is not from Skegness .  Love and hugs to you.  Ray xxx  

These were shearling but still!!

When you say you've lost the lot that makes me so sad ... even though I don't know what that includes,  the wee small hours are probably not the best for you to be articulating it so how about I post a pic 

Cheers 

Oy! There's nowt wrong with Skeggy, you!

That was my friend, not me, Ray xxx

Oh I can articulate hon, regardless of the hour and this is the best place xxx