Awake and up all night

Oh lordy Dingg, I've just seen your post my love.

What on earth are they playing at to put you through that?! How you coped I can't imagine but you did, and hubby's still with you thank god. Well someone's watching over you both but some of those doctors need bringing into line.

Dingg, are you getting support yourself sweetie as it's important that you don't go down the rattle? Just keep bolstering hubby and keep the banter going as that's important too, but above all make sure those doctors keep you in the loop. They must stop messing about with you both.

Sweetheart, you don't know how relieved I am to hear from you but I so wish your news would have been better. You keep going though and you've got the mental strength of ten shire horses and then some.

Always here for you, thinking about you both and sending all our love xxx

Oh my goodness! How utterly exhausting, mentally, physically and emotionally. Why is it those already stretched to the limit that keep being pulled?

Hoping for some better days for you both, at least filled with some rest.Take care

Thanks Gill

Thanks for the kind words.

I am troubled by going through the experience that doctors told us he was dying, then wouldn't accept he wasn't, well into the next day even though he was sitting up they wouldn't give the meds back on a DNR policy that he was dying. He shouted out malpractice and I'm alive, it was funny at times but the trauma of going to the point of bereavement has taken its toll on me, l think anyone would feel the same, l feel ok for periods of time, but the shock is taking a while to lessen.

He's not all that well but is certainly alive.

Hope anyone feeling pushed to the limit can get some rest and l think its surprising how much we can deal with, but this was a humdinger not sure how I've walked from the wreckage of this one but I'm ok.

He's got a stent. So can eat small amounts, early days. Still managed to make him some soup of the standard of Wendy Craig in Butterflies.....if you're old enough to remember that. Will use stealth tomorrow and put a cup a soup in the flask, it will look like l have produced a culinary delight.....

Thanks yes it does feel like that.

But got through it just.

Hope you are having a better time too magical unicorn xx

Hi Shimmer ️

That's what we're all hoping for them lovey.

Dingg and hubby have been pulled in every direction going over the last few months but the latest one by the hospital is a stretch too far methinks.

Anyway doll, I hope you're doing ok and you haven't done anything to impede your injuries. Don't let Stressy stress you.

Hugs and love sweetie xxx

Thanks again Gill

I think l have been on auto pilot for a few weeks.

Thanks again for the kind thoughts

Going to try and get some sleep, was so worn out by it all l wasn't really troubled by the heat even my mind was so full of the events.

Hope all going as well as it can with your hubby too xxx

My phone's playing silly beggars Dinggy, so I'm late again with my reply.

You certainly have been in a car crash with those doctors and their incompetence - Indeed malpractice as hubby yelled out. I hope others were listening.

I reckon you're going to need some professional counselling at some stage sweetheart, as what they've put you through is beyond the pale. 

Now you take the greatest of care of yourself and hubby and only think of yourselves. Rest now sugar, and try to stay sane even though you've got a job on to do so! Shush now and try to sleep  xxxxx

I'm older than the hills so do remember Butterflies, even though I never watched it xxx

Hesitated to mention this given the enormity of Dinggs news but 'mistakes' do happen, sometimes involving the status of loved one's recoverability. I guess if you work with people whose existence is in jeopardy, then errors have huge impacts.

My mother's health deteriorated quickly  but test results at a referral hospital had a beaming doctor tell her and us that she didn't have cancer. We didn't react with joy and I said that there was clearly something serious going on.

The next few days saw her repeatedly rushed into AnE, discharged, repeat. Eventually she was told she did have cancer and there was no treatment. I believe in her case it wasn't a 'mistake' in as much as a particular biopsy had been negative.

A pal, who did not have a healthy lifestyle due to alcohol etc and a penchant for being hospitalized to 'demonstrate' his health needs for Benefits receipt, called me from hospital to say he had been told he had three types of cancer, stomach, lung and liver. A lifelong heavy smoker and drinker whose personal hygiene and living conditions were decidedly not good.

He asked if I would attend a meeting with his doctors. He then rang to say that neither him nor I could attend that meeting and then rang again to say he had been told that they had made a mistake! I live two minutes walk from the hospital so immediately went to talk to the ward staff. 

I was stunned to discover that pal's version of events were 'exactly what happened'. Whatever else was going on in pal's head, that had to mess with it.

Years later I can say that finally, pal's lifestyle has turned a corner. They are currently housed in a place that doesn't look like the inside of a rubbish skip and although they still drink and smoke, they wash, do laundry and have more of a life than when they were constantly in a haze trying to blot it out.

Let's hope we all continue to ride life's rollercoaster without becoming jaded.

Take care

You do know some characters, Shimmer.

But amen to that and let's all try for some sleep now.

Hugs to any night owls swooping around xxx

OK ssshhhbut I do hope Dingg is getting some support. At this point just someone to be alongside. Our hospital have a fabulous chaplaincy team. 

I am not religious or a patient but make use of their trained listening, compassion and 'heard just about everything' unflappability.

Nyt everyone.