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“Getting a cancer diagnosis is extremely stressful, and that brings a whole load of emotions, and lack of sleep certainly does not help. I think many of us have periods of insomnia. I experienced a long period of not sleeping. I could go off to sleep quite quickly, but after an hour I would find myself wide awake again, and would spend the rest of the night getting frustrated because I couldn't sleep."
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I now but me and my missis have gone through i lot of hart aka she was married for 30 years to her hasband who was not very nice to her so hour relationship has gone on for 30 years me and my missis so i will say this I'm 60 years old and she is 65 and the funny thing about it is because we have kids between us I got 4 and my missis have 3 kids so after 15 years to get her but it is 30 years so now my missis kids and my kids are grown up thay are all in their 30 and 40 so my daughter treats her like a mother but the thing about it is we have 17 grandchildren so on we go
Evening Steve
Do as others have said and don't beat yourself up over what you can't control. The main thing right now is that you and missus have got each other.
We share some similarities my friend - I'm 6 years older than OH, he can no longer garden so I hack away and there's other things too, but here's a difference...he CAN'T COOK!
So, we can either starve or he can poison the pair of us but you've stepped up to the plate and contribute where you can. Job well done!
I'm going back into the kitchen now to dish up our tea, as someone has to do it...unless you fancy a quick trip over from Pontypool to do the honours as I hear you're a dab hand in the cook house!
Hugs to you and yours, Stevie Wonder xxx
Hi have you made any progress with contacting your union? Unison have a Welfare section specifically to support members in need with heath etc.
See what your own Union has on offer.
How good are you at ferreting out info? Local to you there may be all sorts of organisations that could lend a hand in different ways.
I think you find it hard not being able to do the things you want to, we all do, but you also stress that your wife is trying to take on those tasks when she has her own struggles.
If you are not good at poking around for info, there will be a local organisation that can poke around for you and signpost and make initial contacts.
What about Social Prescribing via your GP. ? Have a think about what would really help you and your wife out ... so someone helping you get on top of the 'paperwork' for the house bills or something more practical? Or someone to help you get out into the community to an activity or club etc
Take care
Evening Sonia
Aww, that's cute and I bet he liked it.
I absolutely adore Stevie Wonder and have got loads of his music. If I were ever to be stranded on a desert island my items to take would be Stevie, a piano and his harmonica... OH could come along, of course!
What would be your 3 essential items hon? xxx
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