Awake and up all night

Morning and thanks for the welcome.Its not actually raining here 

Pal with autism has reacted badly to our pal's potential or probable diagnosis. It has brought up past experiences of loss and brought into sharp focus our pal's mortality.

Ooh this is a bit serious for this time of day! Suffice to say, the pal under investigation has made things many times worse by continually getting the story wrong, saying he has cancer, will be cut open, might not survive, is on way to hospital for operation. All incorrect.

Balancing both of their needs and reactions is  ... interesting 

I'm not sure how I feel about myself. I am usually a get it looked at and worry when there is something to worry about person.

It is maybe different when we have already faced how vulnerable we can be

Oh sorry I have not asked how you are doing?

Thanks

Morning our kid  

What can I say? Pippin's furball love has just given me a huge boost and I'm sure others here will feel it too. I love seeing him writhing on the mat!

Ah Uki, I'm going to make a concerted effort to quell the moaning as I'm doing my own head in - I'm probably a fully developed, crabby old bag now and will have to get on with it.

Now you, my love, are a few years my junior so stave off grumpy old git syndrome for now, and keep entertaining us with your wit and pics of our Pippy Pops. He knows where it's at.

Sending you and your lovely OH, and Pippin, loads of love xxx

Morning again Shimmering

It sounds like you're having a right old time of it with your pals, but as my eldest grandson is autistic, I totally get how any changes can send those on the spectrum off kilter. My best wishes to them both.

How are you my lovely? I know you've got blood tests today so take it easy and go with the flow - it's the only way really and better than getting het up. I do appreciate it's second time round but you sound like an up and at em kind of gal, so that puts you in good stead. At least it's not raining at yours - yet.

I'm ok love, and thanks for asking, but it's my OH who's the patient, and a very trying one at times, but perfectly understandable after what he's been through. Being a member here, and with another, smaller group of friends, provide all the respite I need and I honestly couldn't do without all the help and support I get. I'm hoping you'll find the same, sweetheart.

Lots of love and hugs xxx

Hi Shim. Welcome to the group m Don't beat yourself up for feeling sorry for yourself. You've got enough to cope with without doing that. You've found a group who really understand. I sometimes have an eye leak when everything seems a bit overwhelming.. In terms of not processing the information, it's understandable. This morning having to sort out bloods appointment and consultation m Dates flying around all over the place.

Gill, I don't suppose you have a spare left knee???

I think I have confused folk with all the chat about my pals. I suppose there is so much going on I haven't had time to overly focus on me.

Basically pals are always the same  one not getting the facts due to guessing rather than hearing and one getting frustrated at having to work around the misinformation and sort stuff out.

Thanks for the great welcome.

Anyone got anything frivolous planned today? It's not actually raining here and sun was out briefly.

Ukiboy hope you get everything in order.

Cheers

Gill's a vampire. I'm sure she'll know someone who can get you a knee. That makes me think of my favourite film Young Frankenstein with Gene Wilder.

Hi, it can be just as difficult supporting someone else, whatever their needs. You definitely need your own support and I'm glad you feel you are in just the right place.

How is your hubby doing?

Cheers 

I was about to say if I trip over a spare knee I will let you know but I definitely should avoid tripping over anything, full stop! 

Cheers

Where are you located Shimmer. Please say Yorkshire.