I’m new to this, and I’m recovering from Bowel ops to remove tumours, I have secondaries in the liver, which I’ll be receiving chemo for in approximately 3 weeks, it was all very sudden after getting results from a bowel screening test in December to going through ops in February, my wife was really supportive initially, but I did notice a change in her feelings not long after getting home , anyway, very suddenly she told me that she hadn’t loved me for a long time and basically told me to leave, I’m not going to deny that things weren’t great pre-op, and we had a few ding dongs, but we were always quick to make up and enjoyed time together walking/holidays,etc, I remember when I was in hospital saying to her that I felt that the experience would bring us closer together, anyway last Thursday the day of my meeting with the oncology dept, was the day she asked me to leave, I was very upset at this to the point I didn’t really care at the time what they said to me and switched off after they said that what I have isn’t curable but is treatable, I was so confused not only by this but her also her decision, she took me directly to my mums from the hospital , my bags had been packed,I haven’t spoken or heard from her since, initially very hurt and very upset, I’ve decided that I can’t dwell on this, I need to concentrate on me, my friends and family are in shock about it ,especially my son,(not hers)I’m sorry, I’m not looking for sympathy on here, I guess I’m just talking out loud and saying things I find difficult to say to people I know,as it it still raw, I don’t think I will ever forgive her, although a minuscule thought in my head is saying, why would she live a lie and stay with me, and in the long run ,maybe she did the right thing?
Hello DavyG
I think it's very brave of you to post what you have said - I think it's your way of "venting" in view of the circumstances and now is the time to move on and look after yourself.
I am so sorry that the oncologist has told you that "it isn't curable but is treatable" so it's now time to try to get as much help as you can. I am aware that you are a member of the Secondary Liver Cancer forum - I think you would now also benefit from joining this forum: Living with incurable cancer forum - patients only . You can do this by clicking on the link I have provided.
You will also find any additional support you may need by giving our support line a ring on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week).
I hope this helps and if I can do anything else for you please let me know.
Best wishes - Brian.
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