Hi there,
my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 advanced oesophageal cancer which has spread, last month, and one part of the emotional process i didn’t expect, was my own personal frustration.
Its not only directed at my situation, but also just generally life, things that wouldn't have bothered me before, make me unbelievably annoyed now.
For example, earlier a man shouted at me for not picking up my dogs waste (may i just say i wouldnt have minded but she hadn’t actually been number two!!!) and where this wouldn’t have at all bothered me before, it had me seething and shouting right back at him- which is not like me when it comes to strangers, as i like to take the approach of “they may have had a really bad day today”
Do any of you have any tips on how to calm myself down, and any idea as to why i feel like this? Could it be related to the stress and worry of the grim diagnosis?
Hi maisymag
I am really sorry to read about your Dad's diagnosis of advanced OC, I know how much of a shock this diagnosis for a loved one can be.
My husband was diagnosed last May, and I still have days where my own frustrations are needed to be kept in check, and where my own emotions find their way half way down my cheek before I have even noticed.
Although the diagnosis may be grim, there are possibilities that it will not be as grim as first expected (well that is what I tell myself regularly anyway) and the blog I write for my Hubby may give some hope to the situation that Dad has found himself in.
The OC forum is also a place where patients and loved ones alike share their experiences.
As the diagnosis for your Dad was only last month, it is not surprising that you find that you have lost yourself, the stress in my opinion is definitely a factor here.
We have several other forums which can also offer you help and support, like Family and Friends I hope you will find the support that you need within our community, and although it is a difficult place to find yourself, you are very welcome here.
Lowe'
Thank you Maisie
Look after you
Lowe'
