Emotions

Hi Bossy and welcome to the community.

Are you normal - absolutely - people who have not been there try to help and sometimes it makes us wince - but at least they are talking and that is sometimes a plus.

Lots of information on our main site after treatment that might be helpful

<<hugs>>

Steve

I never want to hear the words "be positive", "stay strong", or "you're so brave" again in my life and I know that many others feel the same.

It's really difficult for other people to accept that the end of treatment doesn't mean that cancer is behind us and they often expect us to be "over" the experience.  We live in a different reality to them and they can't understand ours.

However you feel about it is "normal" and it's going to take quite a while to find a new equilibrium, especially during the early days when you're still under fairly close monitoring.  You will get there, but it won't be on someone else's timetable.

I have anxiety since I was diognoised with bowel cancer, I had  what was called radical treatment and they hope it will have gone my scans are in 3weeks. I don’t know if I’ve excepted it. I cry a lot is all this normal

Hi @nelly1955 - sounds pretty normal to me. Some people talk about a model of a stress bucket and the things that help to fill it up and drain it. I certainly cry from time to time but I recognize it is what I need and not a problem. If others cannot cope with that then perhaps the problem is with them. mentalhealth-uk.org/.../

It's normal to feel upset about having cancer. It's not being selfish, or self-indulgent, or anything else. For nearly a year after my cancer diagnosis I was on a sort of conveyor belt of consultations, and tests, and treatments, and then that all came to a halt, and that's the point at which I felt terrible. I have been very lucky in finding a local cancer support charity that provides a counselling service, and I have found that to be very helpful. But even sharing experiences and feelings on an online forum like this one can help.

Thank src60 I’ve just come across your reply . I’m having real problems getting on the site some times. Thank you fo what you text. I am on diazepam but dr want to put me on AD setraline. My scans are in 8 and 10 days won’t know if treatment has worked until by the letter I’ve got is the 30th.. I suppose some people cope better than others. You take care and once again thank you.

Hi Nelly, I will be getting my news face to face with doctors on Christmas Eve and I am dreading it. I cry first thing in the morning, every single morning and at least twice during the day. So yes I do think it is normal to feel overwhelmed. As I have 3 young boys under 15 and need to be there to look after them, my GP has prescribed medication to calm me down a bit . I used it today for the first time, and felt slightly better. I certainly do not wish to become dependent on medication like this, but these past 4 weeks have been a rollercoaster. I feel fit and healthy, age 45, and just cannot believe I am being told I have colon cancer . 

Take it easy on yourself and I hope you have loved ones around you. 

Rose 

I’m so sorry to take so long SRC60 I just don’t think in using this properly thank you f

I’m sorry I don’t think I’ve got the hang of this site I’m not very technical and just found this message. Thank you for your reply and the stress bucket, I will look into that. Sorry sent first reply too soon. Please take care and love and kindnesss to us all. X

Hi Lollie thank you for your reply. I understand where your coming from. I had my scans and there is still a minor bit left, so scanned in another month if still there surgery. Sorry for replying so late I don’t seem to know what I’m doing , just got this message this morning. Thank you for replying. Take care and love and kindness to us all x