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Hello lovely people! I am new.
I am 43 and have just been diagnosed with invasive triple positive grade 2 breast cancer (ER8 PR8 HER2) and also non-invasive DCIS in the same breast, after discovering a lump in October.
I went into natural full menopause at 41 (boo!) and HRT changed my life for the better helping to stop my insomnia, hot flushes, palpitations and brain fog. But because my cancer is hormone receptive I’ve now had to say “goodbye” to it, which has felt like the toughest part tor me…so far! (Long road ahead of course). My sleepless nights came back day one, so this past month has felt like the longest of my life whilst my menopause symptoms have returned in full force. I’m now giving Mertazapin and Propnolol a whirl to see if I can rest, but of course my imagination is running wild (any tips would be gratefully received ).
I’m just having scans now to the learn the extent lymph nodes seem clear on ultrasound so that’s very positive. Then it’ll be an op, radio and chemo.
it might seem silly but I never expected so much anxiety and catastrophising - and also grief for things I may not be able to do and plans changing etc.. but that’s bound to happen! Thanks for reading, the encouragement and making me feel less alone ️
I haven’t really had much energy. Sometimes I don’t even want to get out of bed. What helps is not being hard on myself for feeling that way — and letting go of the guilt for not ‘doing’ anything. You have every right to rest.
Let yourself truly rest.
All you need to do is eat, drink, walk a little, and take care of yourself.
And remember: you’re never alone.
You’ll get through this. Like a wintering for the body. Let yourself rest and go through the treatment and find yourself beating this horrible thing,
Thank you so much! Hope you are doing ok - sending my love!
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
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