Hi
we are really struggling as my wife thinks that her cancer is caused by her wrong life decision, I keep trying to assure her it’s nothing to do with that but she just cry’s all day or sleeps or walks on her own and says that we will have to sell house and go on benefits!!! Any one got any helpful advice
Hi Nigpig welcome to the forum. Where has that thought come from for your wife as she is no more responsible for getting Cancer as any of us are and none of us are perfect nor do we always make the right life choices but hey that's life for us all. I was a smoker so does that mean its my fault that I got Cancer ? I don't believe it is as it is so random and there are not any rules with Cancer if we knew who was gona get Cancer we could prevent anyone getting it but we cant.
Having had that diagnosis I imagine that she will be in shock and disbelief and she is not alone in that but it's ok to take some time out to get our thoughts gathered together but don't let her linger too long and see if you could have a chat with her and ask her what and how she is feeling. Just keep talking she will answer when she is ready.
Could you persuade her to come on here and join in the conversations because we know how she will be feeling and there are loads of us who can chat to her and offer some re-assurance for her. Please tell her not to be worried about posting there is nothing that many of us have not heard before and we don't judge or give advice except to say that we have all been there at some point in the journey.
Or if she felt like chatting to someone then she could give the Macmillan Line a call and have a chat to one of the lovely folks at the helpline. Its totally confidential and they are not people she is likely to ever see again so she can talk as openly and as freely as she likes just like on here. 08088080000 .
Please do come back and let us know how she is doing as we will be thinking of you all.xxxxx
gail
