Have met with my oncologist for the first time today, she started on a positive admiring how well my healing is going and how confident they are that they got all the cancer. She then sent me into a downward spiral talking about triple negative, genetic testing and the chance of rogue cancer spells spreading. Her bedside manner has a lot to be desired and I felt more negative today than I did when I was diagnosed. Feel like she handed me a death sentence. Any positive vibes out there?????
Hi ,
Sorry your oncologist made you feel this way. I know most are sympathetic, I remember saying to my hubby that my breast surgeon needed to work on his bedside manner, he just looked at me with pity as I thought. Although I do have to say he was great after my surgery and told me he was happy he had got all the cancer as I had a mastectomy so the tumour and tissue was gone.
My tumour was hormone receptive so I’m sorry to say I don’t know much about Triple Neg. I would ring your breast nurse or care team for support, or if you have a McMillan centre near you, drop in and have a chat with them.
Gentle hugs x
Hello i've just replied to your post in the TNBC group, and theres 3 of us who have all had the all clear.
I looked at Google and thought my days were numbered how wrong i was :O)
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