Cried today for the first time since diagnosis

Hi

It's strange. I'm 45, have two kids and had no intention of having more. But when the oncologist told me I would go into menopause with treatment, I felt really really sad. I guess it's a massive thing when our fertility is taken away.

Hope you're OK x

thank you xx

same, and I was 52

I also had a sadness around never seeing grandchildren if I didn't make it, I was diagnosed in 2015, it gets a little easier as the years pass.

Carolyn

xx

Thank you, I am determined to be in a much more positive state today xx

Hi Nush82. 

I do not have children however also being younger, it was a big blow to me especially after having an amazing year last year with my health, fitness and general happiness. 

If you can and feel well enough to, perhaps a short walk or something outdoorsy would be a good idea... this is something that always works for me personally when I’m feeling a little low about this cance and quickly perks me back up.

Sending you hugs and all the best.

Rex

You are allowed all of those feelings came across this yesterday and the timing seems right for you. It’s a poem I just have to hope I can attach it, but struggle with such stuff but will try!!

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I wish you a full recovery back to that happy place.

I now know it was having the option being taken away that was the major blow. You’re right, an evening walk always clears my head or helps me think things through. Thank you for your kind words xx

Oh no but thank you for the effort!  

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Hi Nush, firstly, never be ashamed of anything you feel though this journey. Nothing is ‘normal’ about having cancer. You need to allow yourself to feel however you feel on any given day. It’s a kind of grieving process for your self and the diagnosis and also for the idea that you might not have kids again.

i was 38 when I was diagnosed and told that the treatment would make me go through menopausal symptoms for approx 5 years and that I’d go through it again ‘for real’ at the normal age. Bloody great I thought! 

Ive never wanted kids but when faced with the idea that the choice was going to be taken away from me, I suddenly felt a bit different. They said I could harvest some eggs which would be like IVF with injections, meds etc and would delay my treatment but it was an option. I chose not to as I just wanted to get this out of the way and move on, plus as I said, I wasn’t keen on having kids anyway. 

Having said that, if you really do want another child, then maybe explore the options with your consultant team before you give away all your bits and pieces, just in case. 

Good luck and keep us updated. X