Shock! off my diagnosis of Breast Cancer!

FormerMember over 5 years ago

3 replies
18 subscribers
3988 views

Hi i'm a 45 yrs young, In January I found a lump in my breast. without any hesitation I made appointment to the GP from that appointment, I just Knew it wasn't going to be good news. I was diagnosed on 07/02/2019 with Breast Cancer! and went into complete shock! My life came crashing down on me then suddenly my life just stopped. Ive just had my breast Surgery on the 19/03/19 and in Recovery right now, will talk about this at later date. and I just had the Good News that i'm clear off cancer on the 03/04/19 which i'll talk about this at later date as i'm aware this maybe a long message and to take in all at once.

The most hardest feelings was dealing with living with the unknown, isolation, rejection, fear, fatigue, lost, aloneness, telling my child and my partner and friends, losing my job, from being fit and active lady to becoming an none active lady, losing my sense off self my breast and off course my life was draining away from me. This is the most horrifying experience for me to get your head round mentally, physically and emotionally. And at the same time trying to be positive around people and to be normal and doing your day to day life.

What is normal when you are facing Breast cancer? dose anyones else have or had he same experience feelings as me?

GRANNY59 over 5 years ago

Hi Angle-tan45 welcome to the forum,and so sorry that you have had to find us but also glad that you have popped by as there are lots of folks here who will understand completely what and how you are feeling..

I just wanted to reassure you that there is absolutely no "normal" when faced with a diagnosis of Breast Cancer.

All the feelings that you describe are what any of us feel so please know that you are not alone in any of this. How do any of us try to get our head round the news that we have Breast Cancer> Its hard and upsetting and scarey and so out of our control it feels as if something or someone else is guiding our lives instead of us.

Please do keep in touch and keep talking as we will be here for you and support you as much or as little as you choose.

Menatime Im sending some huge big hugs your way xxxxx

gail

Haysie over 5 years ago

I can relate to all those feelings! It's such a shock and I don't think there's a right or wrong way to feel. It's all consuming at first.

Keep in touch x

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to GRANNY59

Hi Angle-Tan45,

Gail gives you some really sound advice there and talking always helped me too.

Look up the Grief curve or Change curve by Elizabeth Kubler Ross. She’s a psychologist from the 60’s who created a model that mirrored the emotional response to grief. Since the. It’s been widely accepted that we go through the same emotional journey of faced with a traumatic situation, not just grief. It could be losing a job, splitting from a partner or any life changing event such as being diagnosed with Cancer.

It might help help you make sense of how you’re feeling and to see that it’s all perfectly normal to feel like this.

Good of luck and keep us updated on how you’re getting on.

Xxx

More from this forum

Shock! off my diagnosis of Breast Cancer!