Surgeries

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Hello everyone,

I'm new to the forums here but received my positive BRCA1 result last year aged 29. I've always known I wanted to go down the preventative surgery route, my mum died at 41 and it was horrific and I swore I'd do anything within my power to prevent that happening to me. When I got the phone call I had maybe a day of feeling very angry and hard done by, but after that passed, I just had to remind myself why I'd had the test done, and 90% of the time I feel confident in my decisions.

I'm waiting on my referrals still of course, including to the PROTECTOR study, and feel a bit in limbo. Different fears and insecurities pop up in a cycle. Currently it's "I've never had any sort of medical procedure before, how am I going to manage actual operations?"

Was this the case for anyone else? I'm not exactly phobic about hospitals but nor am I looking forward to going under the knife, either. I suppose I'd just like some real stories about how the whole thing went, how you felt (physically) afterwards, etc, if anyone is willing to share?

  • Hi, I’m so glad it was a bit useful, sorry I’ve only just seen your reply now. I really hope your meetings have gone well. Im 7 weeks post surgery now and although it was harder than I thought (I couldn’t smash through it like chemo I had to really listen to my body - well my legs where the flaps were taken) im really pleased with my choice and how I look now. I need the flaps removing in the summer (on radiotherapy now and have to wait 6 months) but cosmetically I feel confident. My boobs 100% don’t feel like my own yet which doesn’t impact my sleep but they’re getting better weekly, I think they say 6 months don’t they? 
    Good luck with it all! Heart️

  • Hi Kelly,

    1. It doesn’t sound silly at all, work gives you structure as well as much needed money! My surgery (tug flap immediate reconstruction following double mastectomy) was tougher than I’d thought. With chemo I felt like I could smash it and had lots of good days where I felt normal. With me getting the tissue from my legs it was a big operation.  My legs retained fluid (my platsics team said your body sends liquid to wash away bacteria etc because it’s acting like you’ve had a animal attack or something - a big chunk of you had been taken away). I couldn’t sit down without causing this fluid to build up for probably 31/2 weeks (I could sit without too much discomfort after 21/2 but my legs sent fluid. At week 6 my legs felt a lot more normal in that I can walk without causing fluid build up, it doesn’t hurt at all. I had about three weeks where it felt like someone was pressing the flat part of a ruler into the back of my legs. The operation and recovery made me more tired than chemo and o would say when they say 6 weeks they 100% mean 6 weeks and that took me by surprise as normally I’m sorted before the usual timescales. I have taken photos of my thighs as I’m doing a fact sheet for my local Maggies as I didn’t find much UK info available so if you want to see what the scats look like at week 6 or want to chat it over I’m more than happy to help. It’s such a big decision and I am pleased with my choice but I have to say the short term pain for long term gain was right. It’s not excruciating pain it’s just discomfort for a long time. Order was legs worse, left breat/armpit second as I had lymph nodes removed right hand mastectomy and reconstruction was a doddle compared to the other two! 
      The best thing I’ve been lucky enough to have to help me sleep in those first 6 weeks post surgery when you can’t sleep on your side and aren’t mobile at the beginning, is my grandmas electric bed! I couldn’t rearrange pillows for at least two weeks so I could adjust myself with a switch which was so relieving! 
      I’ve made it sound horrendous which it really wasn’t but it’s also not that easy, but in my opinion it is worth it (for me). let me know if I ca n help Xx 
  • Ps if you have thigh flap find tight fitting cycling shorts that are as long on your thigh as you can find. They really help with swelling. Also buy a long flat hot water bottle as that relieves the achey type feeling (I got bought one from moonpig) Xx