My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Ailsa, so sorry to hear that all these songs are upsetting you so much. Hopefully in time you will manage to listen without breaking down. Difficult time with the letter too byt the sounds of it (((((hugs)))))

Well done on almost completing your decorating task. Don't get too drunk on that wine though.

Lynne, glad you had a good evening. Very true aout people having their own busy lives. It does not make things any easier but it is something we have to accept.  It does not mean we arte any less thought of though.(((((hugs)))))

Dot, sorry to hear that alan is in so much pain but hope that you are both managing to keep it under some sort of control.  ((((hugs)))))

I hope that everyone else is managing to have a reasonable evening.

Love and angel hugs x x x patricia x x x

Just a quick one,will catch up tomorrow. Someone gave me a website for cremation jewellerey. Would be grateful for it again as girl at work wants to order and I can`t remember the site. Was it Judi?

Thanks, Helen xx

HI Everyone,   Hope you are all doing ok or the best you can, all the stuff to do with xmas is getting me down i know what you mean about all the xmas songs, i just keep remembering this time last year and i never thought Derek would not be with us. Charlie is making life a bit easier though i just enjoy going to see him and help as much as i can, we had him in town today he is such a good wee boy we never hear him. Kim is so laid back and has took to motherhood really well. I must get my candles ordered i think it'sa great idea. I am working tomorrow shop busier as people starting to do xmas shopping or they are looking for party dresses ours are nearly all gone. Kim coming to stay next week for a few days as they are getting new heating in it was meant to be in before Charlie arrived but that didn't go to plan. I will enjoy having them. Well i am off to bed now i  don't sleep well either and it can make it a long night when you are on your own. Luv and Hugs to you all. Fiona xxxxxxxxxxxx 

Dear Helen

cremation jewellery uk

try this one - expensive but pretty stuff.

Sue xx

Hi All - hope you are all getting through the days as well as you can.

Been missing for a few days as I managed to pick up the dreaded 'norovirus' from somewhere so have spent two days dashing between the bed and the bathroom...

Have read everyones updates and tried to remember them all, but my head is in a total fug just at the minute. The one thing we all seem to be in the same boat about is the whole Xmas thing. It's only the 4th of December, what ever state will we be in by the time it gets here? I had a few pretty reasonable days last week where I seemed to be functioning quite well, but feel as though I'm doing  a bit of a U-turn. Don't know if it is the pre-Xmas stuff that's doing it or the fact that I've been ill - or probably a bit of both. The only plan I have so far is that whatever we end up doing and wherever we are, at 7pm I will be lighting my sky candle! 

Take care all,

Manda xx

Oh, and Helen, we are thinking about using ashesintoglass.co.uk - will have a look cremation jewellery as well now before we decide - thanks Sue!

xx

Hi everyone,

Helen I got this necklace and also a glass urn from this site and even though it is American their service was fantastic and they put in a nice handwritten note with the order.

http://www.funeral-urn.com/cremation-jewelry-round-filigree-pendant.aspx

Well still no curtains (please stop laughing!).  I will maybe get them done tomorrow!  Today is housework day then off to the doctors to register, football lessons with the boys then out for dinner with my sister so a busy day.  Tomorrow I plan to put up the decorations as I am busy next weekend.

Glad you have nearly finished the sitting room Ailsa, you will be glad all the upheaval is over.  Sorry to hear you had a difficult moment at work though.

Dottee, sorry to hear Alan is in pain and I hope you are both coping as well as you can.

Well better go and get cleaning.  Hope you are all okay.

Gayle xx

Good afternoon all

Well I have ordered my chinese lantern. I've had quite a lazy day today, just been to Asda and relaxed all afternoon. The lady on checkout started asking me if I was ready for Christmas, almost told her why Christmas would be no big deal this year and then thought what's the point, so just let her chatter on. I wonder how many times I will hear that question before the 25th?

I am going out tonight for the first time in .....ages. I can't actually remember the last time I went to a party, Colin and I preferred to stay in, be in each other's company. I was invited a couple of weeks ago and was going to refuse but my GP said it would be a good idea right now to accept all invitations. I suppose he was trying to be helpful as he know I live alone and get lonely on my own. I do not posess party clothes, so I have had to go and buy something, I don't know how I will manage with my new shoes, they seem very high and I never wear heels!  The thing that worries me most is coming home in a taxi on my own when it is late and dark. Colin always used to pick me up on the rare occasion I went out alone at night. Should be OK as I don't intend drinking much as I have to be up early on Saturday to go to a Christmas Fair at the school were my son-in-law teaches.

Thankfully my weekend is all planned, I hate it when I have nothing to do, it really drags on your own doesn't it.

Anyway hope you all have a reasonable weekend.

Lesley x

Hi All , Lesley , try and enjoy tonight , i can remember the forst time i went out after Gordon died and i was worried about the same thing , coming home on my own , taxi etc but its worth it to be out and with people , i wont stay in unless i've got no where to go , like you doc says accept all invitations , you can always come home if your not happy , and it does get easier after the first couple of times you've done it , in fact i think i posted something similar a few months ago , so i know how you feel hun . I had decided to be content with this fri night in , celebrity final is on , had a hard week at work and emotionally , so i decided i would get my jim jams on , glass of wine , lappy and watch tv , but then my friend text last night and said "are you up to going out tommorow " i text her back "what time " . I'd rather be cosy on the sofa with my loved one but i cant have that so i'll go and freeze my bum off and go out . I might regret it tommorow as i've got to go and watch the same friends son sing in the semi final of singinging comp , oops 2 nights might not do me any good , oh well xx

 Amandai do hope your feeling better now , what a blow , the novavirus can be nasty (as you probably know) so glad your recoverinfg now xx Helen are you in or out tonight ? how have you coped without your phone ? Hi to everybody else hope everybody is coping with all this christmas talk , if one more person says to me "are you ready for christmas then " i always smile sweetly (honest) and say "nearly , are you ? what will you be doing over christmas "(see Patricia you taught me well ) I still haven't heard from Gordons cousin yet , but not going to let it get tome again . Hope everyone has lovely plans for the evening .

Lynne xxxxx

Hi, lynne

Sorry it's beem such a miserable week for you; enjoy this evening. I've been off work this week with the dreaded stomach lurgy; i slept almost 24 hours, which probably had a lot to do with it. can't move far from the bathroom, though.

    YUK!!!!

at least I can't pass it on over t'internet!

have as good a weekend as poss, everyone.

helen - are the shoes getting another outing? sue xx