My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Your carriage awaits.....now you can 'get into the spirit'!!!!!! xxxx
Hello ladies,
Just a quick post before I leave work and still have internet! My mum phoned me this morning to say the phone is finally on as of this morning - yipppee!!!! So I will try and set up my broadband tonight I say optimistically so hopefully be back with you all tomorrow.
Thanks for finding me on Facebook Manda - I find it easier too at the moment as I can navigate it on my mobile. But hopefully back online tomorrow and can post properly again.
Take care and bug higs!
Gayle xx
Hi everyone. How are you all? I have just spent 45 mins catching up on everything you have been doing. My weekend was fantastic. Shona loved it. Sooooo busy though. Very quickly - I drove the 200 miles to Bracknell on Thurs evening and got there about 11pm. Tried to go to bed at 12 but sleeping was tough. Up by 6:30am on Friday! I got all ready on Friday morning at Becky's except for clothes and then drove into London to Shona's house, got there about 3pm. Got changed with my other sister Fiona and caught tube to Leicester Square. Had fab evening in cocktail bar, Cuban restaurant and salsa nightclub (17 of us), got in at 3am Sat! Spent Saturday trying to recover, taking 3 kids to various clubs and chasing Simon off on his stag do to the rugby and then into town. He rolled in at 3:30am on Sunday morning. We spent Saturday evening watching x-factor and eating chocolate brownies. Got up at 5:30am on Sunday, into cab at 6:15am - still hadn't told Shona what was happening!!! Bought coffee & crousants, told Shona and then boarded the eurostar. The weather in Paris was lovely. We walked for an hour or more across Paris from the train station, taking in the sights, via Notre Dame (quick tour round of course!). Walked along the bank of the river. Had lunch of french onion soup, steak and chips, creme brulee, wine & coffee in a restaurant opposite the Louvre. Taxi to the eiffel tower, quick trip up and back down but as we were running our of time decided to have champagne on the train back. Got taxis thro Paris rush hour back to station just in time to do duty free shopping. Fun trip back drinking champagne and eating bagettes and being far too load for other passengers I think!?! Got back to Shona's about 10pm. Very long but wonderful day. Shona loved it. Slept like a log for the first time in months. Drove home from London via Swindon yesterday to drop other sister off. Some of you will have seen I posted photos on FB last night but then ran out of steam. I am hoping to get a couple more photos from Shona of the three of us in our special dresses.
Thank you all for encouraging me to have a good time. I still can't believe we did so much in one weekend but my feet are still throbbing!!
I am going to hit post on this and see if anyone one else has posted before I catch up with all that you have been up to. It is lovely to be home. Ailsa xx
As well as the run down on my weekend I have been catching up on the news from everyone else. I missed everyone so much while I was a way. I had a lovely time but I felt very different to everyone I was away with. I think my little sister must have sensed that as she has just rung to say that she would like to mention Chris at the wedding next Saturday and am I okay with that. I told her I will be honoured if she mentions him.
Fiona I hope you are able to get to the musical tomorrow night and that your dad is improving. Good thing you were able to get your glasses repaired.
Lynne I am so glad you are going to Benidorm. It will be good for you and you can tell us all about it. I am sorry to hear about the headstone. I know exactly how gutted you must feel. I felt dreadful when Ryan postponed Chris's headstone and kerb just for a fortnight. I had only been home 5 mins last night when Chris's sister rang me to see when it was going on. Because I was tired I felt a little like I was being judged because I am organising it myself and it hadn't happen when planned. I am sure she didn't mean to come across like that though. I hope you hear from the Halifax soon. I still haven't heard from my bank even though I thought it was going well a couple of weeks ago - thay have not rung back yet.
Patricia - I haven't tried my hand at decoupage yet but I will be getting the glitter glue and my brush out tomorrow as I need to finish the wedding card - it was a very useful tip from Dot!
It was funny reading that you were all so bored on Friday - roll on our get together in February.
I'm glad your laptop is not a gonner Helen. I will be thinking of you in the next few weeks as you will have a tough time when you bury Paul's ashes on Sunday and then have to attend your friend's dad's funeral on Paul's birthday.
Good evening Sue & Gayle. Nice to see you back on line Gayle. I will have to get off to bed soon as I am still trying to catch up but I hope Manda, Judi & Rosemary, you are all okay tonight. Good evening to Dot & Alan. Take care everyone. Ailsa xx
Hi guys
I had to go back three pages to try and catch up, and now I can't remember anything at all apart from the last page - sorry!
Ailsa I am SO happy that you had sore feet ....... no that doesn't sound nice .... I mean that you had such a good time and packed in so much and walked so far and eat and drank so well. I think i spied a a bottle of Verve Cliquot in your FB pictures, very posh madam. Good job you didn't try and do it in Gayle's Jimmy Choos! Gayle - Broadband - yahooooo.
Not got much to report here, not in a bad way, just not much new. I was out for supper with three friends on Saturday and that was lovely, really scrummy food. Only downer was that my old boss who is a friend was going to stay the night at mine because she was going on a blind date. oooohhhhhhh .... so we got a taxi together at the beginning of the evening and I dropped her off. She was very nervous and took a few minutes to go in the winebar. The taxi driver asked if she was ok, so I explained she was going on a date and he said "I hope you daughter has a nice eveing" she is eleven years younger than me!!!!!!! Not funny.
I will try to do something this week to tell you all about, and if I don't manage I will make something up!! Loads of love to all.
Judi xxx
Morning girls - sending you all love and (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Wow Ailsa - what a lovely weekend you all had!! Do you do 'scrap-booking' as well as make cards??? What a lovely memory book could be created for your sister.........to include your Paris trip and her wedding day!!!! You could ask friends to write about the happy couple to be included too!!!! Just a thought!!!!!!!!!! Love and (((((hugs))))) Dot xxxxxxxxx
Ooooh Ailsa it sounds like you had a wonderful time. Good for you. I bet your sister was surprised.
Happy Birthday Esme sorry if I missed it.
Dot, I hope you and Alan have a better time this weekend.
Everyone else. Hope you are well.
Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x
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