My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Dear , dear Lynne -

ditch the guilt, girlie - go to Benidorm!!!

sue xx

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NO CONTEST!!! GET ON THAT PLANE AND ENJOY!!!!!

I agree with Sue, Lynne go for it!!!! Get it booked and have a great time

Helen xxx

Thanks my friends xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx night xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ailsa I hope you have a good time. Go girl.

Aww Judi, sending a super duper comforting duvet and surrounding you with big angel hugs. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you hun.

Lynne, NEVER feel guilty for trying to get on with your life. Tut tut tut, have you forgoten everything I taught you about coping strategies?? If you have a chance to go away and spend time with others (and feel you would like to) then go guilt free.(Need someone to carry your bags??)

Dottee had a go with the paintbrush and glitter glue suggestion. What a lovely result. Thanks for the tip.

Helen, Sue, Esme, Fiona, Gayle, Kaz (if you are watching) and anyone I may have missed (coz I have lost the plot now) have a good day tomorrow.

This evening I have occupied myself with decoupage. Not done it for ages and not very good at it but hey, it is something to do.  I also decided in a moment of madness to give the oven a good clean. What on earth was I thinking.  I had to wait until the evening because I was using the oven to cook the evening meal for me and my son. Beef casserole and dumplings mmmm.........  even have some left so gonna freeze it for another day.

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Hi All

I'm sure there is much more for me to reply to and comment on, not caught up on new posts yet, but just wanted to jump in and say Lynne - go for it! We owe it to our loved ones to make the most of every chance that comes our way...

xx Manda xx

Evening to All,  Well it;s nearly morning not evening just can't sleep as usual, Welcome Amanda thinking of you and your daughter. Keep posting as this has been great for me better tan any counselling. Well missing Scoob still keep looking for him in the house when i come in. Hopefully he will be cuddled up with Derek somewhere nice. Ailsa hope you have a nice weekend and i will also look forward to seeing the photos. Well been a wet day here again and very cold. No baby  yet for Kim she is very uncomfortable now but still 3 weeks to go. Nothing planned for weekend but sure there will be housework to be done. I have the musical 'We Will Rock You' next Wed at Edinburgh with my sister for her birthday so looking forward to that just hope my dad is ok as we have a lot of swine flu going about just now.  Hope everyone is ok ? I better go and try and sleep as working in the morning speak soon. Luv Fiona xxxxxxxxxxx     

    Just in case anyone is wondering what a bug hig is!!

Morning all , just a really quick one to say our thoughts and prayers our with Dottee and Alan this morning and i hope the doc gives them some good answers xx

Patricia i am coming to live with you , you always cook such good meals , beats my ready meals and soup , oh well saves cleaning the oven so much lol . Sorry i've done my homework and i've got my coping head back on , i'll keep practicing our strategies , lil sis is getting back to me later , but i think i'll be going , she wont take "oh i cant " for an answer , even tho her husband is going too .

Fiona , hope Kim is a little more comfotable today , the weeks are a nightmare arn't they . Dereck will be playing with scooby now i'm sure xx

Manda thank you for your kind reply , and well done to your daughter hun , keep posting , tell us what your plans are for the weekend . xx

Morning Sue, Helen ,Quill Gayle (sure she'll be back today ) Judi ((higs )) Esma , Ailsa will be enjoying her weekend now , wonder if her sis knows what there doing yet ?

Catch you all later

Lynne xxxx

Lynne, all you have to do is put a casserolke in the oven on a low light and leave it in all day. Then when you get home just pop in some dumplings for 20 mins. Almost as quick as a ready meal but much healthier and tastier and then put whatever is left in containers and freeze for another day. Simples. AND.. if you don't want the hassle of washing the container you could cook it in disposable aluminium ones. Oooh yes.... I know all the tricks lol.  

Nice pic Sue x

Have a good day. Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Evening all , well Patricia you've made me realise the error of my ways , i promise when i go shopping i will buy stuff to make casserloes next week , i did used to cook , honest , but i cant see the point for 1 , and i do cook for the kids at the weekend . I will get my slow cooker out and get cracking on sun , chopping preparing , and throwing everything in my cooker , your right it is healthier xx

Well Benidorm is booked again , its cost 66pound (flights and self catering ) i cant say no really , its only mon to fri again , but it will be a break from this bad weather . Big sis just got back today and she says its still really warm over there so hopefully things wont change too much in 10 days . Thanks for encouraging me everybody xx Whats everybody up too . Rain is bad here tonight xx

Lynnexxxxx