Hello .. I lost my husband 15 weeks ago. Although he was given a terminal diagnosis the end came very suddenly. I didn't have any support (apart from the funeral directors, who were beyond kind)
Breja you're not alone we're here if you need to talk. About anything. Even if its to just rant. 15 weeks is still so early. The shock will still be there , although I'm at 7 months and I still feel the shock of it. I don't have much support either,just my brother and sister in law and neice and nephew. They've been great.
Welcome breja, although none of us want to be part of this group, we are and we support each other without judgement.
Im coming up to 9 months but still feel like it was just last week so its very recent for you. Im sorry you didnt have any support at the end. My family are scattered and I dont drive so im having to rely on others for support. There may be groups for example you can go to and there are certainly things online fir support. These can help you feel less alone.
Thank you so much nicangel for your kind message. It took almost 8 weeks to sort everything out as I was sole executor and next of kin and his family gave no support .. but I am proud that I managed it alone. During that time I was in an odd place ... and now I just go from day to day. At almost 72, I still work so that keeps me busy in thought and mind. I am so sorry for your loss but good to know you have support from your brother and his family
Malengwa thank you so much for your kind words. Like you, my family are scattered .. 2 sons in Beirut and Bosnia, daughter in Lincolnshire and brother and his family in Cornwall. I am truly sorry for your loss, it is something which cannot be put into words. Thank you for your kindness
Hello Breja, So very sorry that you have had no support during this which is probably the most difficult time of our lives. Certainly the most painful. Certainly in my case And it's a time when we most need a supportive network. There are many bereavement sites. Widow counsellors Podcasts which I have found helpful. Linda Falasco and Karen Sutton are ones I listen to regularly. Have you put your Name down on a list for Counselling? We really need someone to talk to and get all those thoughts and emotions out. I'm sure you have already experienced the many ups and downs of varied emotions. Anger, resentment ,despair as well as the deep sadness and loneliness. Once the initial shock wears off . Amazing that you are still working ,either from necessity or because you enjoy your job. I hope you find it helpful to come here whenever you feel the need. Try to eat well,get the rest you need and keep hydrated. We need to take care of our health to get us through this difficult time .
Thank you so much Breton. Your kind words are really appreciated. Today is a bad day ... the emotions are hard to deal with. Like you say .. so very many and some days I feel as if I am on a rollercoaster. This is the first place I have come after feeling so angry and helpless for a few days. Cruse helped me massively when my dear Mum fell asleep 13 years ago .. but while I am feeling able to deal with the grief at the moment, it means someone else is getting some help. I will contact them when I feel strong enough to hold a conversation. Thank you so much for your kind words
I had to wait 6 months for counselling from Cruse , so you might be as well getting on the waiting list. I'm still having bad days after 14 months. I've had panic attacks during the first 6 months. I have been taking Valerian to calm me down and to help me sleep.
