I'm finding it so hard

Hi nicange

7 weeks is not long, dont worry about the financial stuff too much. In order of priority i did tell us once first, that will help with things like your council tax, his tax and if he was on any benefits.

Then i did the banks, one was easy, the other has been a complete pain. If he had an ISA, ask about an inheritance ISA.

Then i did pension companies because I only work 2 days so need his small pension to pay the bills. They were sorted fairly quickly. As Nick was 49, was he emplyed because there should be a death in service or survivor pension or both, depending on who was his employer.

Then i started probate which took me several weeks waiting for ID from the other executors.

Only after that did i do things like utilities, many of which were online

I still have some things to do and Im 3.5 months in. Slowly they will get ticked off.

If he had a will and you are exector it can be time consuming especially if its complicated but if there is a soliciter already involved they will do most of it. Just get a fee up front if you can.

Yes the world moving on is hard. And its quick. I cant believe we are half way through January. 

Keep talking, we are supportive bunch x

Hi CharlieH

I can only echo what everyone else here is saying. It is very early days for you and it will be very raw. I lost my husband 2 and half years ago to bowel cancer and am just going into my 3rd year without him and some days I still can't comprehend he is gone. I have managed on my own so far and just wonder what he would make of me ploughing through each day without him. I sometimes wonder why I am still here and he isn't but I have a son and daughter in law and two lovely little granddaughters who all keep me going as well as an older sister who I now look after. She has learning and mental health issues and needs me for a lot of things she lives independently on her own but there are a lot of things where I need to be here for her. She has a few health issues going on too also including cancer which she has beaten for a 2nd time so in a way I am here for a purpose. Everything you are feeling now is normal I think we all here can agree to that. Just keep coming here when you feel the need to as we all get it and it's good to come on and read other posts which can relate to what you are feeling or going through. I wish you well moving forwards when you feel you can. Take Care. 

Vicky