Where to find help?

Hi, my gp got me in touch with my local hospice, we're I am going for counselling. Lost my Dad on Christmas day 2024. Then I lost my wife my everything on the 25th January.  Some people recommend cruse, I have looked at the website but never rang them. So you might be best having a word with your gp. I am sorry for your losses.  I know it's hard very hard but try and look after yourself. 

I am having counselling at The Saint Elizabeth Hospice. 
We had no dealings with them but both our GP and the Head and Neck nurse looking after my beautiful Valen sent referrals in to them for me.

The counselling is actually Art Therapy, but we have done very little art.
Its 121 and 5ge first couple of sessions was just me crying an£ sobbing for an hour. 
But she has helped by allowing me to vent my anger, fears, sadness, trauma, confusion etc etc etc to a stranger who I don’t need to hold anything back from. 
I can’t tell my family or friends about the traumatic way he went so had been bottling it up and reliving it daily, hourly. 
She has taken it all.

She has been extremely helpful in helping me to visualise Valen as a silver tree, his branches (his legacies) reaching out and sheltering us all who love him. 
And she has helped me, and this is obviously all individual ideas, to see my life now as a maze to be negotiated.

I would highly recommend you reach out to your GP and request counselling (in my area there is a 12 week wait). 
If you had a Macmillan Nurse, they should also be able to direct you to counselling and groups. 
You may need to try a couple before you get your fit.  I lucked out with the first one I went to.

I have also joined a bereaved walking group. We all talk about our loved ones. No holds barred.  
It s great to get me out. Meet new people who don’t know me as part of a couple. Exercise.

I went to a bereavement coffee morning group and was gobsmacked that not one of them mentioned their loved ones.

And don’t forget us on here. Xx

Thank you 

Thank you 

So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on 25th March. I  too relive every detail of his final days all the time. I have contacted Cruse, they are phoning me next Wednesday to do a telephone assessment to see what support they can offer me..