Head and shoulder mask.

It sounds odd but I wove thread through my husbands mask and planted cascading strawberry plants in it. It hangs outside now in the garden and I can pick little red jewels from it. It no longer looks like a mask but it feels like a piece of him is in the garden.

Hello  I do know about the horrible mask. I hated it and after Barry died I had to get rid of it. Take care. Fellow Glaswegian. Keep in touch here. We understand. Xxx

Hi!

I'm from Glasgow too. I don't know about sending it back to the hospital as I tried that with boxes of my husband's unused Stoma bags. For reasons of health and safety and hygeine they wouldn't accept them even though they were boxed and unused. I tried to offload them to our local GP practice as well but wouldn't take them their either mentioned something about contamination even the company who supplied them wouldn't take them either. Strange I thought as the NHS seem to be in a mess and crying out for supplies.  So sorry to hear you have this and I appreciate it may not be pleasant for you to have it in the house but at the end of the day it's your decision on what you think is best there is no wrong or right way with these things. I lost my husband Jay just over 18 months ago to bowel cancer and this was the first things that came to my mind to get rid of all his walking aids and stoma/urine bags etc I think adrenaline just kicked in and it was something I just needed to do. The zimmer frame and rollator went back into the community for reuse as did his shower seat and wheelchair. Social services supplied a wheelchair as well but that ended up lying in the boot of the car and never got used either because he became bedbound. Seven years is a long time but then they say grief has no time limit. I still expect Jay to come through the door or hear his big booming voice- you heard him before you saw him- I still get my dark days/weeks even though it has been 18 months but just tend to go with them now and like unwanted visitors they eventually leave. I wish you well with moving forward. Take Care. 

Vicky.