My first Christmas without him for 41 years

It's a feeling that is common at New Year, feeling you are getting further away from them.  I too just go to bed but the fireworks and boats in the harbour can be very noisy. 

Best Wishes 

I found myself getting through Christmas better than expected although there were tears later at night.

New Year could be different. The idea of the next year being more hopeful given we hoped the same this time last year...

It won't be a 'happy' new year and I struggle, for now, to grasp the concept.

Take care,

WDJ

Good evening,

I got that feeling, from saying Rob died earlier this year, then saying died last year. In January it will be 2 years since he died. I still spent this Christmas remember our last christmas together, although he was doing ok, as ok can be when you are told you have only weeks not months to live and was on week 9. He spent the time sleeping, watching TV, cancelling things, selling car, making me lists and sorting to make things easier for me. But we were together that was all that mattered.

Nearly 2 years and the tears are still flowing, I have good days and bad days. I managed Christmas better this year, still spent it just me and the dog, but didn't sleep it away.

I am going on holiday for the anniversary of his death,  on my own not sure how I feel, each day I think about it, I feel different.

Take care everyone 

Donna

Hi there, I too have just "got through" my first Christmas in 51 years without my beloved husband. I feel as if I just played a part in a film or something. He died very suddenly in September only 16 months after diagnosis. Friends and family say " well the first one is the hardest... " and I feel like screaming at them " if I live another 20 years EVERY Christmas will be impossibly hard". I know people mean well but why do they even think that next Christmas or the one after or ......... will be any easier.

Grasan

Hi the first Christmas is the hardest when we loose our loved ones, my first partner the father of my children passed away 28 years ago in 1994 aged 32 from a massive heart attack while he was out one night,  leaving me to bring up our babies who at the time were 8 years 6 years and a 2 year old , the first Christmas without my partner was horrible i cried nearly all of that day but tried to stay strong for my babies, and now here i am with my partner of 17 years who as been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with metastases so to say life is cruel is a understatement . 

Hi, I feel for you and yes, life is a real bitch sometimes. When I read of members of this community who have lost a loved one at such a young age as you did, then it makes me feel grateful that I had 44 wonderful years with my Lin. It just takes the edge off the pain that I still feel every day when I wake up and she is not there beside me.

Stay strong and make the most of your time together. Enjoy each others company as much as you can.

My thoughts are with you both.

Derek