Hi
My dad passed away in November, aged 83 after a 4 month battle with mesothelioma. I threw everything in to supporting him, staying with them, finding treatments and was with him at the end. My sister and I organised his funeral and gave him a brilliant send off. Our mum has Alzheimer’s so we moved her in to a home.
Christmas has been tough, I’ve had flu and been hit by crippling grief. I can’t stop crying, I miss him so much, I long to hear his voice, have a hug. He was my rock and I don’t know how I will face the world without him.
We’ve got so much to do. Sort out and sell the family house, run his business. I don’t want to let him down by not doing it properly.
I want to look at some support groups or counselling to give me some support and strength. I don’t feel like I can keep leaning on friends and family. I’m retreating from everyone when I know I should just get out there and get on with it as my dad would want.
Any help or recommendations would be gratefully received.
Thank you xx
Hi SupportingDad I am very sorry for your loss. Getting through grief is different for everyone, there is no right or wrong way and no right amount of time so be kind to yourself and take as much time as you need.
I very much doubt that your dad will feel let down by anything you do especially while you are in the middle of trying to cope with grieving for him. I feel he would want you to do what is best for you and in your own time.
If you need support you can call MacMillan (see number below) you can also contact your GP or look for local support groups in your area. This MacMillan page might help CLICK HERE
I hope time will ease your pain.
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