Dreading New Year

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Christmas was ok and we celebrated in my beautiful mum's honour and had lots of FUN. Just like she told us to and would have wanted. Of course we missed her more than words can say and we really kept her memory alive. 

Now the festives have ended and I'm back home. I literally am dreading the New Year. It's my Mums Birthday on New Years Eve too. I plan to just be in my pjs and chill with my dad and hubby. I really don't want the New Year to come. I don't want a year to start that my beautiful mum won't have lived in. I know it will come and I know I will find inner strength. If this year has taught me anything it's I'm stronger than I ever knew, I cope better than I ever knew. This is the hardest thing I have ever faced. It's werid but I know I can do this because my mum raised me and gave me all these skills. I just wish she was with me. I miss her so much, it still hurts like it was yesterday.   Xxx

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    Yeay! Well done ! Great work.

    Have to admit I’m struggling too. Such a dichotomy in my life. After a few unhappy working years my new job is great and going well. On the flip side not having Mum or anyone special to share that with is just so soul destroying. Friends are great but it’s just not enough sometimes. I know I’ll get through this, I have to but it’s all round just a little bit rubbish at times.

    Thanks all for listening and being there.

    Love n hugs all xxxx

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    Thank You Emma xxx Can't wait to be honest. XXX

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    Sending hugs SPu xx 

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    Awesome Kate .Amazing photo. Xx

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    Hey all. Xx 

    Thinking of you all. XX

    Odd week of emotions, bit choppy to be honest. Moments of calm and then the biggest waves. Xx.

    Lots going on here. Im missing, having my mum as support. Xx

    So looking, forward to some time out. Xx

    Im so exhausted.xxx 

    Does anyone else, feel like this. I feel, I've been on the longest treadmill. Been running, soooo fast to keep going. And now I'm shattered. Xx So I plan to walk on the beach, sleep, read and enjoy the odd glass of prosecco. xx I know my mum, would want us to look after ourselves and rest and recharge. Xx 

    Wishing you all a settled week. Kissing heart

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    Hey

    Yep, totally recognise those feelings and the constant feeling of exhaustion. Sleep doesn’t seem to refresh me in the slightest.

    Enjoy your break and take in the calming sea air.

    Thinking of everyone.

    xx

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    Hi SPu and all. I’m pleased to hear your new job is going well SPu and can understand how bittersweet it feels. We just want to tell our mum’s don’t we. I read things in the paper and see things on the television and my first thought is, I would love to tell mum. Mum and me shared the same sense of humour, now I don’t have mum to laugh at things with. I could sit with mum and not say a word, but, that was fine, it was a comfortable silence, because I was with mum. Sometimes the simplest things in life are the best. Your right SPu, it is soul destroying, but, we will get through this. We are all here for you, your not alone. 

    A big well done from me too Kate - fantastic, another lovely photo too. I find myself looking up to the sky more and noticing the stars/colouring of the sky.

    Hope you all manage to get through the weekend ok. Enjoy the sea air Sunshine.

    Thinking of you all - love & light xxx

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    Morning all,

    Hope you have a lovely holiday Sunshine. Like Spu said relax and enjoy.

    Glad to hear your job is going well SPu

    Well done on your run Kate and thanks for sharing your photo with us. 

    I'm the same with feeling exhaustion even though thankfully I'm sleeping I wake up feeling awful, like I haven't slept at all. 

    Hope you are ok Sunny, Gbear and Emma, been thinking of you all.

    Missing my mother more than ever.

    X x x

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    Aww ladies sending lots of love. I can completely relate to the above. It's like I wrote it myself. (Once again) I love that on this thread .You guys get it. Xx Today it feels bitter sweet. I'm looking forward to going way. I'm excited for my holiday. Ready to have lots of FUN. But I have this big lump in my throat and ache in my heart. I just wish my mum was coming too. Xxx

    Over the last 24hr. I thought loads," I'll ask mum." "Have I got enough/too much" "shall I take my hairdryer" My dad and my husband look at me blankly. Guess it's a girl thing. I miss our chats. Our phone calls. Just US. Xx  We also would laugh loads and we were soooo, at ease in each others company. I know she would be beaming that we areagoing away. All she ever wanted was us to look after each other and have FUN. So that's what I intend to do. Xx She be with us always. Xx