My Mother-in-law is struggling to eat and it feels like she is fighting to go on for us (2 sons, daughters-in-law, and grand children) but we wonder if she has given up for herself. We don't know how to support her and we feel like no one professionally cares for her. We have become her carers after her surgery on the 6th Feb and she has declined every day since then. We ended up taking her to A&E a week ago and she spent 5 days in hospital. Scans reveal that she is medically clear of blockages and cancer but she was discharged barely able to walk or eat. She sleeps a lot and eats a tiny amount of food we put in front of her. She does have another medical condition but the major decline started after breast cancer was diagnosed. How do we support her? What kind of care does she need? It feels like medical consultants, doctors, and her GP have given up with treating her. We feel like we are slowly watching her die when we should be supporting her to get better. No-one will talk to us and no-one will tell us "there is nothing else that can be done" but that is what their inaction feels like. We want to fight to get her better but does she? We don't know what to do.
