This is a Cancer Website

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I have never posted a blog before, today I am because I am so outraged by what I have been reading in the blogs today. I am posting this in support of those of us who are sick to the back teeth of the actions of a thoughtless few who day after day continue to post Jokes (although most of them barely qualify as that they are so pathetic and crass). I am absolutely appalled at the behaviour of some people and their nastiness towards others here, and don't for a moment believe comments like 'get a life' when said in Cancer community, are 'innocent remarks' or acceptable, especially when they are directed at the terminally ill. When the Admins made a perfectly acceptable alternative place to post jokes, I had hoped that they would stay out the blogs, because they aren't the right place for them. As others have said, this isn't a joke website, there are countless of them out there on the internet if that's what you need. Just Google 'Jokes' its NOT rocket science. I will say it plain and straight too, I don't believe its a mistake when the Jokes are still posted in the blogs - the same people make the same mistake day after day after day and have done for weeks. People gently try to tell them that it is inappropriate, but they ignore it, they have NO interest in anyone else's needs but their own. I think its time the Admins took stronger action to enforce the ruling on Jokes in the blog section, as it is clearly being flouted by those with little or no consideration for others needs, or respect for their wishes. This is a Cancer Support Website - if cancer bothers you, or people discussing it troubles you, I suggest you are in the WRONG place.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    ive only just joined so have yet to experience the insensitive. any nonsense and i will just delete my profile and try elsewhere. not all of us want to laugh things off. time and a place and all that

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi ZOE

    I could not agree more this is a cancer support site for people to come together to talk about there fears, ask questions or just talk the last thing you want to see are jokes cancer is not a joke its real.

    PS this is for sammie please dont leave this site i have not spoke to you but i do read your blogs good luck at the marsden.

    Take care Julie. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I post regularly in the Jokes group. Previous to being asked by admin to post there I, like everyone else, posted in the general area for blogs.

    I always took time to consider if a particular subject was suitable for such general publication, and quite a few times erred on the side of caution rather than just press the submit button.

    I feel that is was the correct decision by the admin group to ask for jokes to be directed to a less public area. <strong>However, surely a private message sent to the poster of the recently posted jokes would have served the purpose of the member removing them and placing them in the correct place.</strong>

    Although I am not the person to whom the above comments were directed I was offended by the tone used. Anyone can make unconscious errors, and not everyone may be as internet/message board proficient as I.

    I would disagree with your comment that this happens 'day after day'. Within the last few weeks this has happened twice as I recall.

    Sometimes a less belligerent tone gives members the opportunity to realise an error and can be more effective.

    Bren

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Bren,

    The problem is they happen with such frequency and regularity I simply don't believe they are done in error or by mistake. I think they are part of a concerted effort to 'protest' the ruling about Jokes and where they should be posted. I am quite sure if they can copy and paste the jokes in the first place, they are more than capable of making sure they select the CORRECT place to put them. I simply do not believe the excuses.

    Reasonable people acceeded the new ruling, a small minority continue on an almost daily basis to post in the wrong place,  often several at a time, I think just yesterday one person posted at least 5 separate joke posts in a row  to the blogs area. It would seem they persists too, irrespective of how many times people gently tell them that they have posted in the wrong place, or how many times Admin moves them to the right place.

    I simply don't accept it is a mistake.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I totally agree Bren.  And Zoe you are WRONG and I do not appreciate your bombastic tone.  I believe I am the guilty one who posted twice in the wrong place.  On the first occasion I realised afterwards, as I had posted using a different route and had ticked the joke box but didnt realise that the other box ticked automatically and I hould have manually unticked it!  I am so paranoid about posting in the wrong place, this is why I checked afterwards!  I have explained my eyesight problem on another thread to you.  I reiterate you are WRONG when you say these mistakes are purposely intended.  Also poor Toni has been away and wasn't here when Admins asked us to try and post jokes on the new joke forum.  And maybe Toni hasn't got her head around it yet.  She did however apologise nicely for her mistake.  You however on the other hand have behaved very aggresively, which is totally unecessary.  Everyone on this site is either a survivor, carer or has been closely devastated by cancer.  However we are all different as patients and carers ie some of us react differently,  and prefer to smile and laugh and give hope in a message that lots of us do survive cancer.