The right thing to do?

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Well we wait for Thursday to see if the cancer has spread and to see if my dad should stay on the tablets or not.  I think not but should I tell him that?  His health had deteriorated so much with the weight loss, sickness, hair loss and lack of energy but he is terrified of being off them.  He even rag the hospital on Thursday to see if he should carry on bless him.  Do I tell him what I think and give him an alternative opinion or do I just let him do whatever he thinks is right even if that means him loosing even more of himself and his life?  He says what is the alternative but it is terminal and this is an inhibitor.  What is the best thing to do I ask myself?

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    It is heartbreaking to see your dear dad

    going down hill so fast before your eyes,

    but it is his choice , tell him how you are feeling , thou i expect he knows but wants

    to go on as long as he can because he

    loves you, he will know when enough is enough as long as you are there to support

    him, that's the most you can do.

    With Love Lucylee. xxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thanks Sue, Maureen and Lucylee your kind words and advice are really helpful.  I am trying to support him and do what is right for him, just sometimes like you say it is heartbreaking.  I am sure he will say when he is at a point where he has had enough and I will be by his side always.  Thanks again for all your advice and support it means the world. Beckyxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Becky. Sorry but I've only just read your blog. I posted a long post last night and asked how your Dad was. In a way your worry about your dad carrying on with his tablets has helped me to be more at ease with my Mum's situation, She has not had the chance yet to try sutent but the oncologist is 'keeping that avenue open' if she gains in strength. I feel that as carers and onlookers in this situation we are dammed if we do and dammed if we don't. As Lucylee says we just have to support in the best way we can whatever  our parents feel is best.  I can empathise totally with how you are feeling.

    Keep strong Becky for your Mum and Dad. Sue x