The right thing to do?

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Well we wait for Thursday to see if the cancer has spread and to see if my dad should stay on the tablets or not.  I think not but should I tell him that?  His health had deteriorated so much with the weight loss, sickness, hair loss and lack of energy but he is terrified of being off them.  He even rag the hospital on Thursday to see if he should carry on bless him.  Do I tell him what I think and give him an alternative opinion or do I just let him do whatever he thinks is right even if that means him loosing even more of himself and his life?  He says what is the alternative but it is terminal and this is an inhibitor.  What is the best thing to do I ask myself?

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I am sorry you feel so helpless, you know what you know and feel that your dad should know too. Your dad probably doe's know already, but his need to survive as long as he can and to do everything he can to enable him to do this over shadows everything else. To your dad he is still him, he might not see what you see. I don't think you should say anything, it is his life at stake and he needs to fight. It may seem futile to you. I know it is painful, I know too well I have been where you are now. You need to be there giving him your love and support in which ever decision he takes which I have no doubt that you are. It is up to the doctors to help your dad to make an informed choice. I wish you peace of mind in whatever decision you make. I send you lots of love and best wishes. Julie XXXXXXXX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I understand what you are saying love, but it really has to be your Dads choice at the end of the day. I know that watching some one you love going down hill so rapidly is so hard to watch, I was in your situation with my own Dad but I was only 12 at the time. Talk to your Dad and see what he wants my love...........Carol x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you so much Carol and Julie for your kind words and thoughts I really am grateful for all your advice.  It must be so difficult for him clinging onto life, I will talk to him and see what he thinks.  I will go with him and support but will let the final decision rest with him and support him whichever way he wants to go.  Thanks again to you both Beckyxx

  • Life is very precious and your Dad will want to fight  and stay with you as long as he can.

    Wishing you love during this difficult time.

    Love

    Sue x x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    My dad fought his cancer for a long time and never wanted to go in hospital but when the time came and he was in such a lot of pain he asked the doctor to take him in they made sure he was comfortable Mum said she wouldn't have wanted him to go on.like that.

    Thinking of you

    Love

    Maureen xxx