Hoping someone may be able to offer advice - dad is not able to move around very much at all because of the breathlessness and he is now having problems with his feet. Basically they are swollen, they feel numb when he walks, are really cold all the time and are starting to turn blue.
I've urged him and Mum to contact the GP or the Macmillan nurse, but they 'don't want to be a nuisance'. Medication-wise he's only taking steroids, plus his decongestant stuff since the chemo ended and he recovered from the worst of the pneumonia - has anyone had experience with similar symptoms? Should we be worried or is it relatively common for a patient who isn't moving around much?
Speaking of cold feet - we're due to go on holiday soon and am really anxious about being away. We've had the holiday planned for a year, but i feel so guilty about going, it's making me so stressed I can't sleep ... but i know dad would be so upset if we didn't go (and anyway the insurers aren't being very compassionate, no surprises there, and we'd lose all our money!)
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Sorry to see you are havin a hard time at present .I think your mum or you should contact a doctor there maybe somthing can be done to help your dad.
Do hope you go on holiday but understand your concerns more so after reading your profile .Do you have other family that can keep a eye on them ..
Maybe not a lot of help to you ,but i am thinking of you .
I do hope you persuade your mum to take medical advice for your dad's sake, so that he can be more comfortable. On the subject of your holiday, you don't say if you are staying in the UK or going abroad. I hope you can follow up Nanaboo's suggestion that some else might be able to keep an eye on your parents while you are away. Has your mum given you any idea how she feels about you being away? It is so tough watching a loved parent suffer. My own daughters have been there with their dad, so I have an idea how you are feeling. Some me time if you can get away will give you a much needed break, and set you up to help caring for your dad when you get back. Remember other carers are here on the site to support you.
Thank you - your thoughts and words are appreciated. The feet are a little better today, but the coughing is worse - you win some ...
My sister will be there when we are on holiday (we are definitely going), but it won't stop me worrying. The one blessing is that Dad is not in pain, and is no worse than he was two weeks ago when he came out of hospital. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better (me and all the other people on this blog site :-(
