I haven't blogged for a while, but I'm hoping someone may have some feedback on this problem. Dad is having very disturbed nights, where he sleeps quite soundly for about 4 hours, then spends the next however-many hours dozing and disoriented, mumbling in his sleep, and sometimes not knowing where he is. He's then absolutely worn out and distressed the next day. Often he then spends most of the day sleeping. Of course, during the night he also disturbs Mum, who gets up and makes tea, etc to try to help. She's looking really drained. He's taking a low dose, slow-release morphine tablet twice a day to 'help with his breathing' - could this be causing the problems?
I think in the back of my mind I'm worried that it's the lung cancer spreading and causing him these problems - or am I just being stupid? Does anyone have any experience of this?
On a positive note, we were able to take him to a family party on Saturday - just for a couple of hours, so he didn't get too tired. It was a huge confidence boost for him and Mum, an excuse to dress up and get out of the house for a bit. However, some of the 'friends' at the event seemed reluctant to come to speak to him, which made me very cross. it's not as if they're going to catch anything! I'm amazed by how insensitive people can be. I appreciate that they may be embarrassed, or not know what to say, but it doesn't take much effort to say hello does it?
I'll stop now before I shock the office by bursting into tears at the thought of what this cruel b***dy disease is doing to him (and those around him).
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