How do I tell my family

Hi Tricia anne,

First of all tell your family the truth. They would not thank you if they found out from someone else. How

you tell them is up to you. Tell them you have Cancer. You have got over the worst part, the Op

and that you will soon be starting treatment for Chemo, and explain to them if you can how you and your husband feel about whats ahead of you both, and that you wanted them to know. Let them know that you have the strength and a Positive outlook for the future.Which to me you seem to have

and thats part of the battle. On this site you will find numerous people who have or are going through the same worries and fears. We are here to help you in anyway we can, so you will never be alone and if you want to talk to someone there always someone here. I hope this helps in someway.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Sarsfield.xx

Hi Tricia Anne,

I agree with Sarsfield.  I have just had my 1st 3 month check and have been pronounced 'all clear', but knowing my family and friends were there helped me enormously, I didn't want to let them down so my determination kept me going.  My 2 adult children live away from home so my husband told them individually but they obviously wanted to see me straightaway.  Yes, there were tears from them both but as they said, between us we will beat this Mum and were there for me from the start.  I think they would have been very upset if I hadn't had told them.

Keep positive and as Sarsfield said you will never be alone on this site.

Keep us updated on your treatment.

Love Pearl xx

Oh yes,telling your family the truth is vital. It may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do but honesty is best. Telling my family was so hard and heart breaking but once we all knew what was going on then things settled down and we fought together. Being positive is a must, though not always easy to do but saying 'I am going to fight this all the way' has kept me going and of couse my many mates on here. Take care love.....Carol xx

My adult children both live three hours travelling time away from me and so I had to tell them on the telephone. I kept it simple, told them I had cancer and what treatment I would be having. My husband 'phoned the other family members on my behalf.

I agree it's important the news comes from you not picked up by gossip.

Good luck with your treatment.

KateG

My dad has terminal cancer. Mum has always been honest with me about what's happening; where they are in the treatment. I'm so grateful that I'm kept in the loop. I can't imagine how it would feel to not know what they are going though... I'm sure your kids and close friends will have picked up that there's something going on to be honest.

Also, I can now help mum, going home more frequently and helping by giving her a break from caring for dad etc... In our case, dad's cancer is terminal and I'm also thankful for the opportunity to go home whenever I can to spend time with him.

Keep positive. Friends and family can help enormously!

Best wishes xxx