How do I tell my family

Hi

As you know already there is no easy way to say it or to soften the blow. My daughter is 15 and therefore lives at home. She is very mature and intelligent so there was no way of keeping from her the fact that something was going on. We chose to keep her informed throughout the biopsy, waiting for diagnosis, etc. I was finally diagnosed with BC, had mastectomy and lymph node clearance and now having chemo. My daughter has drawn great strength from being in the loop, was never told anything by anyone else but us, and is a great source of humour and support for me.

As said at the beginning its never easy to rell someone the one thing they never want to hear whilst you're still dealing with it yourself but in the long run I think they will appreciate your honesty.

Wishing you well in the future.

Regards Maxine

I can remember using every euphemism in the book to avoid coming out with the words .,.  and then finally, having just to say "I have cancer."  It was the biggest possible relief from a purely selfish point of view and was such a load off my mind.  I could say to myself, "Right, I have cancer - now deal with it!"  Once I had admitted it to my family and friends it was much easier to accept it myself and to get down to the serious business of fighting it.  All the very best to you - let us know how you get on.  Hugs, Kate xx

Hi,  I was in hospital when i was diagnosed,so my husband had to tell my 3 children (all in their thirties)because i didnt want to tell them over the phone and they wanted to know what was happening.Since then we have all been really positive and thats good for me,they keep my spirits up.  Take Care Sue xx

Thank you all for your comments and advice.  I have never used chatrooms ?? Forums ?? Blogs ?? before but I will work it out.  I just wanted to say to everyone it feels wonderful not to be alone. I hope to get to know you all better when I figure out how it all works. I have taken step one and told my sister and on the weekend it will be my daughter and son .. "talk soon" all best Tricia