What to do with myself

when i first came on this site i told my husband and sons partner about it ..... but they said it will be all doom n gloom ....then i thought ...good ! they wont come on they wont see what i put ! i can just let go and not worry what anyone thinks

i have a little grandson (4) and he is a great distraction to whats going on !!! sometimes - most times i give him an extra kiss or cuddle - it makes me feel bit better

your mum is a very lucky lady to have a son who loves her so much ...thats why we hurt so much hun ....cos we love them so much .......

you are definately not in denial about what is happening - or you wouldnt be telling us now would you? we all deal with"stuff" in our own way there is no right or wrong way

please accept my support ...and as others have said to me ...i.ll hold your hand (cyberly)

xNx

hello anonson.

yeh i can see your" fit to blow" so here is what i want you to do .

get a plastic bottle of lemonade, screw down the cap

tight and give it a good shaking up, now you have to release the pressure in the bottle in one go without any of the stuff pouring out the top.

See there’s not much chance of successfully releasing the pressure in any short space of time. the likely outcome will be a massive uncontrollable release of half the goodness in the bottle .all over anyone standing near. And a lot of cleaning up will be required. Plus the waste of all that good lemonade.

Now if you take that same bottle and don’t give it too much agro it will open and release the tension without “Blowing its top”. fizz it may a bit, but you can release the pressure in it e few times before it gets critical thus it will never get the chance !”to Blow”  no bad thing!. a bit like a rattlesnake given a warning. “don’t push too hard “if you take note it wont bite you.

See talking about this thing can release the pressure that you really don’t need . and adding guilt feelings to it cos your not talking to the people who need and will willingly give you support , why “hide behind your baby” of one year old?. I think mentally you are hiding behind the most precious thing in your life. Strange you don’t “hide” behind your wife,

I suppose that we hide behind the shield we see as the most effective without recoil if you were picking a shield to use in a old world conflict you would pick the best that wasn’t going to question your decision to use them in this case. an older wiser more mature shield who has probably stood in front and fought a few battles with life trials before Might just need some explanation. For the problem you have .

BUT she might not and an experienced shield surely can add something to your strategy.

I have no idea what your problem is it may be yourself or a family member, but your rejection of them in either case could be  damaging.

Those are my thoughts I give them to you freely with my best wishes please try to open your heart a bit and unscrew that stopper, release some tension .you could always get a big plant pot to kick around as I often do.

pete skipper