Well time to get her home now

Im so sorry Poppy ((hugs)) I have sent you a message

love scarlet xxx

My Sympathy Poppy,

You say your the weakest in the Family that I dont beleive,you deserve alot of credit for the way you have looked after your Mum and Dad. the love, caring, and understanding you have shown is something to be proud of. Your parents are lucky to have such a caring Daughter,and I am sure they know it.

I Hope your Mums last weeks are painfree and she is at peace with all the family. The Mac Nurse will let you know what she will need. If you can Poppy and your Mums Time comes try and be there Just to hold her hand.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

Oh Poppy, I'm so sorry. Sending you love and strength for the coming weeks. Val X

hi poppy,so sorry to hear your story and the worries you have with doing the best for your poor mum, i cant offer advice re the nurses and when or how long they come as in our situation we had no support we just  did our best and luckily had a large family so we could get some rest inbetween looking after our own mum,my mum too passed at home and all i can say is accept every bit of help you are offered or can get,youll need strength you never knew you had and youll go through every emotion too,its was a huge privalidge and honour to be able to be at mums side through out her final days but also very heartbreaking,all you can do poppy is love her as you are doing and share those little magical moments that do still shine through even in such sad times,sometimes no words or explanations are needed as you both know everything that needs to be said without saying a thing, its a connection that is deeper than anything youll experience and its in both of your hearts, youll find your strength poppy but i hope someone is looking after you too,sending you love at this very emotional time,mazz x

hi poppy,

as far as i know, they just pop in once or twice a day,(thats how it was with my step brother) or when needed, but he went into a marie curie hospis at the end,

i can only tell you from MY point of view, how i want my family to behave (i am terminal), when the time comes that i can no longer fend for myself, it it vital that my family "allow" me to die as quickly and painlessly as possible,this might not sound good to you, but i watched my step brother being practically force fed and, the constant "keep fighting" wispered in his ear, and i know it lasted far too long at the end, this is the closest thing to hell for your family to go through, and im not sure if your mum is like me, but im sure she fought it as best as she can, but there comes a time when you know to let go, and the best gift my family can give me ... is to say, its ok to go now, i am very lucky in that i am still very able bodied, but when i am not, i want to go quickly,

i understand what your dad is going through, i`ve been married 31 years, my husband went to pieces, my strong handsome man simply fell apart, and your dad will need you although he may push you away, he still needs you, even if he doesnt know it, hugs and time, but maybe even a kick up the backside......

your in for a very rough ride, try to be strong ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

liz

COURAGE.....................IS WHEN YOUR SCARED TO DEATH..............BUT YOU SADDLE UP ANYWAY