After my Mothers big operation she has staples from ear to ear and down her neck both sides she also has a piece of skin from her leg sown on to her chin and I am such a baby I am so scared to see her
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I know what you mean but think how brave your mum has been, she deserves a visit.It sounds like an amazing operation but she is still your mum under all the clips and stitches. I really have a problem with hospitals, I have cancer myself and my treatment is hard for me but the worst thing about having a hospital phobia is that I couldn't visit my dad when he was ill many years ago and he died. I have had therapy for the phobia and it is a bit better now but I really regret not being able to do that for him.
You are not a baby, perhaps you just don't want it to be happening. Maybe you will feel better once you have seen her. Whatever you do I wish you luck and a pat on the back for your mum.
I know how you feel I wouldn't have wanted to visit me either. Just remember its your mum and try to see past the staples, I know your mum will be so pleased to see you . Just pop in for a few minutes. She will understand if you cant bring yourself to stay longer. Sometimes the discription is worse than the actual thing....Fran
Firstly you are not a being a baby ((hugs)) this is very scary for you all. I remember feeling sick and frightened when i saw my sister coming out of theatre after her brain surgery, i felt i couldn`t walk over to her i felt awful..but as i got closer i felt calmer I could just see she looked so poorly and was crying that my nerves vanished. Im sure you will be the same..keep telling yourself its just Mum and she needs you, she is a very, very brave lady and will hate having to put you through any of this. Just take things slowly and breathe deeply you will get through this and Mum will be so proud of you. My thoughts are with you both.
She's still your Mum whatever has been done to her and she needs your love and support right now. You'll never forgive yourself if you don't go. Be brave sweetheart, the first step is always the hardest. Look beyond what's been done to your lovely Mum and remember how much you love her.
