Positivity

No you are not mad, yes you are normal and going through all the things everyone else has done.

Unfortunately, we learn to ignore the "poor dear" looks from people....it gets easier (but still annoying).

Good luck tomorrow.

Debs xx

Hi Terri,

If you're mad then all of on here are mad too !! My stock phrase is "not too bad" when I get asked how I am now for the millionth time. And we all swing between feeling strong about it at times to sheer panic at other times.

Good luck for tomorrow, sending over big hugs

Andrew xx

Hi Terri, Yep everyone here has the same feelings and fears. You are as normal as us all! My stock reply to How are you is GREAT said with the obligatory smile {no doubt just like you} Im turning into tony the tiger! Of course people around us do care but its arelief to be with people who understand us, patients, carers on here or on the other side of the screen. You can find out about the grading  etc if you want to by accessing the info here. Soak up the support Terri love Karen xox

Same here Terri, I present an outward show of 'I'm okay and I can beat this' but just occasionally think 'but what if it comes back'. I think everyone who has cancer has these same thoughts, it never goes away. I got the odd person who looked at me with sympathic looks and comments, and I asked them to please speak to me in an upbeat way, just as you would normally. I think they got the message!!

Good luck for tomorrow

Angela xxxx

Hi Terri, this was just like reading about myself.  We all put on a front for others, but when alone all the fears well up.

As for people giving you the sympathetic looks, when I lost my hair and was wearing a bandana, I knew it was only natural people would look at me, but what I hated the most were the people who thought they had a right to stare, so I eventually learned to stare back and they looked away embarrassed.

Best of luck for tomorrow, hope it all goes well.

Christine xx