goodbye my lovey dad xx

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FormerMember

26 Nov 2010

Well its been nearly nine weeks since i lost my wonderful husband errol,, it still seems like yesterday, my dad has been really poorly also so have been running backwards and forwards to be there for him at the same time.

Dad passed away on saturday , i had been with him all day holding his hand but he decided to go while i was on my way home,,, will miss him so much but i know he is now at peace and in a better place, he was so independent and when he needed caring for in a home we knew he was sad at how much his life had changed.

I cant believe that i have lost my husband and my dad so close, i always thought i would have errol to support me when dad died , but i have had to get on with it yet again,,

My life has changed completely i have to support myself now and i really don't know which way to turn,, i need a job i havent worked for so long as errol always looked after me,, i have two dogs who i adore and without them these last few weeks i know i would have not even got out of bed ,,, so now what do i do how can i support us all when i cant work full time and leave them alone all day,,,

Benefits !!! i really thought that they would give you time to grieve but oh no go to work now or no money.

So my plan is to make the funeral arrangements for my dad and lay him to rest on tuesday,,, then who knows

FormerMember over 14 years ago

hello teresaeth

So sorry for your lost .i was in the position that you are in when i lost my partner i had'nt worked did'nt need to ,if you go the doctors they will sign you on the sick due to bereavement this is what i did ,you need this time for yourself to grieve ,you can;t be expectected to work while you are grieving take care love sharon x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Aw teresa, I am so sorry to read of the loss of your dad, especially so soon after losing errol.

I can't begin to imagine what you are going through right now.

I agree with sharon, you should not be expected to be job hunting at such a very low time in your life. speak to your GP regarding this.

My thoughts are with you.

Christine xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Teresa,

I am so sorry that you have had to cope with the loss of both errol and your dad in a short space of time. You need time to sort out your emotions but unfortunately everyday life rolls relentlessly on. As Sharon has suggested, you should get your GP to sign you unfit to work due to bereavement and give you a bit of breathing space.

I do hope that you have some family or friends to offer some practical as well as emotional support and thank goodness for dogs, they are such a comfort .

Take care,

Love lizzie xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Teresa,

No words of mine will bring you any comfort.Just

to say My deepest sympathy. May they Both R.I.P.

Dont forget to look after yourself your health is just

as important even more so now.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Teresa

Just wanted to send some hugs and say that I am thinking of you at this unbearable time.xx

Definately see your g.p for a sick note as the other Sharon said, you can only deal with so much and Im pretty sure that you have reached your limit just now! Im really sorry that you have have to deal with the bereavement of the two most important men in your life in such a short spaceof time. My heart goes out to you.

Be kind to yourself, take some you time each day where you can treasure the memories filling your heart and give yourself a much needed break

Thinking of you, love Sharonxx
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