It is almost 8 weeks since my husband David passed away with Mesothelioma,he was only 59 yrs old.He was ill for only 6months.He never had chemo (dont know why).I nursed him to the very end,and I am so glad I done that.
I must say that his GP and Hospice Nurse,and the local nurses where really great,they all offered great and much needed support to me and David.But nothing can perpare you for the end,but you cope .
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hi susan,
I'm sorry to hear about your husband and that you were able to nurse him at home, I am pleased you had support from the professionals and hopefully from family and friends too. This website is always here for you and you meet some great people in chat who will give you great support, take care, viv xx
i lost my husband on the 31/3/09 age 59 also called called David it's like reading my own letter, Dave had lung cancer which had spread to his brain he was only ill for 8 wk so i know how you are feeling, but this site is really good and helpful there is always some one to talk too.
My husband Ray, died of non small cell lung cancer on 1st March 2009 10 months after diagnosis at the age of 54. I cared for him at home until the last week when he went into the hospice for symptom control. The end came very suddenly and everyone including the hospice staff were very shocked. Nothing prepares you at all for the end, no matter how long or short their illness is. I am not coping well at all but I make myself go through the daily activities of life. My heart goes out to you Susanp and also to susan0958 . I do go into the chat room and find it so very uplifting. The people there are my cyberfamily.
I expect that your husband was not offered chemo as it was felt that he would not benefit from it and would suffer the awful side effects for no good reason.
It is an awful devastating illness and no-one should have to endure it.
If either of you want to talk to me I am often in chat or will reply to pm's or emails. Take care of yourselves. Love Tricia x x
Tricia,thankyou for your reply,I am not coping very well at all,They seem to think I am blocking David out,as I have so much to sort out,1: Court case,Not being able to register his death because of the Inquest,plus I have still got his ashes at home because the head stone will not be ready until some time in June,and I could not leave him at the cemertry.I have been keeping busy,so I do not think about him,I dont no why (my GP thinks its to painful) Me and our 2 grand daughters are having councelling.I wish some good could come from this but I dont know what.Do you find night times are the worst.
Going to bed,and theres a empty space next to you. David could not speak for the last 4 days of his life,and I know he w
ould have wanted to say things to us before he went,I find that upsetting.
I am so sorry that your husband passed away.and at such a young age.I feel robbed of 27 yrs (thats what they said he would of lived if he did not have Mesothelioma).I feel quite relaxed when I write my feelings down.
