my relationship has been affected

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Hi this is my first time on site. I had a hysterectomy 3 wks ago and was diagnosed with appendix and ovarian cancer. Am still waiting 4 more tests 2 be done as been told it unusual and trying not 2 dwell on it 2 much until know more.easier said than done! Was expecting results 2 days ago then had call 2 say it would take another wk. I been struggling since op but cant have hormone treatment until know my results. All the wks of fear and worry came out and took it out on my boyfriend of 2 half yrs.I apologised after and was in floods of tears for first time.He refused 2 accept my apology and has ignored my calls and texts. He text once saying the row could not be taken back and he wants time 2 think about things and space and that what he going 2 do. I am a single mum off sick from work and feel so scared lonely and isolated. Feel so hurt that he walked away and was so hard and cold 2 me. Have tried 2 think maybe he cant deal with it all, then think maybe he just not want me. he has made comments about my weight loss which i think insensitive. just all feels like 2 much at moment and terrified of results and going through it on own whilst trying hold it all together 4 my daughter.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Sue.  I think it must be really hard for the partner of people with cancer.  My poor hubby has had to go through it twice and even though its me with the cancer I really feel for him having to care for me, sit ages whilst I have my chemo etc.  He has never complained once.  I cry, I moan and he is just a rock.   But he admits to being scared, he doesnt like me being ill and he cried when I was diagnosed both times - I think you both need to have a really good heart to heart and to consider each other in everything.  Good luck, hope it works out okay xx