Lost my hubby

No that's not bad Sue, that's completely normal. When I lost my dad and brother, it felt so strange that everything and everyone was carrying on as normal. Life goes on as they say, but for you it's on hold. Be fair to yourself, it's only a short time since you lost your husband and of course you miss him. If you want a good old scream, then come on here and scream at us. Take care of yourself and your lovely young sons.

Angela xxx

Sue, Thinking of you and the boys.

I lost my husband when my children were 10, 2 1/2, 1 and preg with 4th.  I desparately wanted people to realise how much I was hurting, but there was no way I was going to tell them.  It just seamed incredible that for everyone else life was normal.  HOW CAN THAT POSSIBLY BE RIGHT???   The First of everything was the hardest but just make sure you keep your friends and family close and  talk about the wonderful memories of their lovely daddy everyday.

I know that this is a truely difficult time for you and the pain of your loss never goes away, you just learn over time to cope better with it.

I made special photobooks of pictures and text for each of my children so that they each had special bit of daddy to keep forever.

Big Hugs for you and the boys.

Wendy x

Sue, it must be so hard for you at the

loss of your husband, and your children there dad. When you are grieving you cant understand how the world keeps

turning and people get on with there lives normally, when you are hurting so much.

There is nothing i can say that will make

your grief any easier, you must just give

in to it and let the healing start. You will

always have your love for your husband

in your heart, thy say the hurt will get

better, i just think it gets quieter, and you

get on with living for your children.

I send you a BIG HUG and remember we

are all here for you.

With Love Lucy Lee. xxx

I think everyone on this site knows and understands how you feel, patients and carers alike. Life is oh so cruel but your kids need you now more than ever before. I am a lung cancer patient, 18 months on from diagnosis and I think it is harder for the families than for the patients.  The families have to pick up the pieces when we, the patients go.

Be as strong as you can, big hugs to you and your kids. Love Bill xxx

My heart goes out to you and its so hard to stay strong, I agree with lucylee that the hurt just gets quieter but the good times are easier to see when the raw pain eases its grip on you. Its been a nearly 17 years since my grandad(more a dad to me) left me and it still aches so much especially when I need him now more then ever. I'm facing the prospect of my cervical cancer being here again. I dont even know how to describe it....

Your boys are so important to you and the three of you need to be there for each other and let the grief. It'll hurt far more if you try hold back. Let the tears flow, scream if you want to. Who's to say how you deal with your pain. Most importantly know you're not alone, you'll always have everyone on here to turn to and give you a shoulder to lean on when it gets too much.

I'm sending you all the love in the world and I wish all three of you the very best for this season. You're not alone and you can sound off here whenever you need to. Ears and hearts are always open to you.

Much Love xxxx