scared daughter

I'm so sorry your dad has been given this prognosis.

Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to answer your questions on what is best for your dad. A lot of people find chemotherapy less traumatic than they imagine, but others have a bad reaction to it. If I was in your dad's position I would try the chemo and if I reacted badly there is always the option to stop it anytime.

I wish your dad and family all the very best in whatever decision he makes. No-one will pressure him to do anything he doesn't want.

I hope you manage to get a lot of support from this site. There is always someone here to talk to who will understand what you are going through.

Best wishes, Christine xx

Hello and I am answering because I too have been a scared daughter and know a little of what you are going through....

Not sure if this helps but this time last year my Dad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and offered chemo, as he would only have months, if not.  I was not sure what his response would be but he decided to go for it and think he would beat the cancer.  Well, he did well, the lung cancer symptoms disappeared, he tolerated the chemo but sadly developed a brain tumour and was taken from us in a very quick 7 weeks.  What I am trying to say is, that although he too had pallative chemo, it did relieve his symptoms, as the Consultant said it would. Dad also didn't want to linger and he didn't, he was 74 when he left us on 13 Feb this year.  We are all so sad but pleased he was not in pain or discomfort for long.  Hope this helps, my heart and thoughts are with you.   If I can help, please let me know.  Best Wishes to you and your family.  Nicky

Just wanted to add, that Dad managed quite a few days out, family occasions and a weeks holiday with us at the end of November and he was well and enjoying his time, he had convinced us and himself that all was well, just as we wanted for him, hope this helps you XX

Hi Teddy,

Listen to your Dad he dosent want to linger. If that is is his wish. You have to respect it. But that is up to you and the Family. I hope you choose well.

All the best . Look after yourself.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

thanx for replying, all of you. It is really appreciated. We are taking dad out tomorrow to visit a museum and he is very enthusiastic considering his recent news. I am going to try and be very positive and i hope it is okay to keep posting.